2006-06-26 07:24:32 · 14 answers · asked by siouxgodness 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all, I think you are making a wonderful decision to give your child up for adoption. You will be giving a child to a family that was not lucky enough to have one themselves.
I think you need to find a family that you would like to be apart of your life. Find adoptive parents that don't mind the child's real parent(s) being involved (if you wish to ever be apart of the baby's life). A financially sound family would be great because usually they will be willing to cover medical costs and provide a life for your child you might not be able to. Most of all, find a family that you know will love your baby as their own. Your gut instinct will let you know who would be right for you and your baby.
People on here have made rude remarks and I think you should blow them off. Your decision is the most selfless act of them all. You will make someone's dream come true of a family they could have never had if it were not for people like you. God bless you! Best wishes and good luck.
2006-06-26 08:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by Pren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one right family for your baby and that is his/her natural family. That is why you can't figure this out. Educate yourself beyond all the adoption propaganda you get from agencies, lawyers (this is a multi million dollar industry, they see $$$) and desperate want to be parents (Can't have their own. Your child is 2ND best, a replacement for the child they can't have.) Start educating yourself by reading "The Primal Wound". Go to http://groups.msn.com/Adoptese message board and talk to adoptees and Mothers who lost their babies. Adoption will cause life long trauma for you and your baby. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Please reconsider you will regret your decision the rest of your life. PS. Don't believe any open adoption lies either. The minute you sign those papers the adopters can and in most cases do, close the adoption. You have no legal rights.
2006-06-26 20:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still choosing the family, take your time and don't rush into it. Think about the kind of family you want your baby to have, and ask yourself if the prospective adoptive parents fit that image. Ask them lots of questions.
If you've already chosen the family and placed the child, just have faith in the adoptive parents. Stay in touch, and you'll see for yourself that your baby is growing up happy.
2006-06-26 14:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by rainfingers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to congratulate you on your decision. BUT there is no way of knowing whether the family you have chosen is the "right" one. Do your homework, make an informed decision.
My third child was adopted and I have questioned my decision on many occasions, but I gave my daughter life, even though I was unable to care for her at the time.
It was not an open adoption, so I don't know details. I hope one day to hear from her. She just turned 17.
2006-06-26 14:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just trust your decision. I'm an adoptive parent, and we love him as if he were our baby. I think, in my county anyways, that most parents who adopt want children and will love them otherwise they wouldn't be. My husband and I have been trying to have children for 6 years, so we were so happy to be able to adopt a baby. We went through a lot of things just to be able to adopt too. Just trust that you are doing the right thing.
2006-06-26 14:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought this out the whole way through ? So many people regret giving their babies up for adoption. If you insist on putting your baby up for adoption than I think you should really check these people out.
2006-07-03 00:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will just know. even know its better for the baby to be with his/her real family but if u cant take responsability for ur actions well than giving ur baby up is better than killing it like alot of ppl do. but if u dont spred ur legs u would not have this problem
2006-06-26 14:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a family that will love a child, regardless of race or parent's religion or background.
2006-06-26 14:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jill&Justin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with your gut. My wife and I are trying to adopt. Good luck to you.
2006-06-26 14:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by pulpcliffy420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend lots of time with the family. Stop by their house if you can just unexpectedly. References, do they have other children? Do your research
2006-06-26 14:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by lil_gabby_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋