My boyfriend tried to fight his father, very childish, yes, and he knows that now in front of my son. I am afraid that they are going to try to take my son away from me. I am a great mother, he has food on the table, clothes on his back, a house to live in. The kid has more than he needs. His father pushes him off onto his mom to watch our son when it is his nights. Any ideas?
2006-06-26 07:16:47 · 16 answers · asked by party girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Try pushing the angle that the father was fighting in front of his own son. I think that he will be more at a disadvantage than you. It means that he has no self-control & therefore is not fit 2 take care of a child.You however,is the child's mom & was not fighting.
2006-06-26 07:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ethslan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. I think you will be fine. Tell your boyfriend to be careful in front of your son because that is not the influence you want for him. You ex sounds like mine. When I got remarried my new husband wanted to adopt and since the kids were an inconvenience and he would no longer have to pay child support he let him. Now I am rid of him forever and ever! But it was a hard road at first He went to court for more visitation (which he dumped them at his parents or grandparents) and less child support and he got to claim them on his taxes! I paid for everything but $300.00 a month. The moral is Don't let your ex intimidate you into thinking every move you make will cause you to lose you child. It won't, I am sure he is no angel himself. Good luck!
2006-06-26 14:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by JENNLUPE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have a over night visitor of the male gender staying if you are not married. In the eyes of the law this is wrong and your child's father can get full custody of your son if you don't play by the rules.
2006-06-26 14:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it can be proven that you put your son in harms way you can have a problem; but seeing how the kids own father was in the fight I would say it doesnt look good for him. I would avoid situations in which your son's father and boyfriend are together.
2006-06-26 14:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubt they can't do anything. If they try to take you to court, you didn't do anything. All you have to do is say that you are no longer with your boyfriend and that he moved out. Then when yor ex comes for the kid have your bf go to a friends for a while. They would have to prove that you are doing something wrong in order to uproot the child. Relax! even if he took you to court, he would need alot more ammo then a fight he himself participated in. It makes him look immature, and probably actually makes it harder for him to gain custody.
2006-06-26 14:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been through a custody battle with my husband's ex, and it's never black and white. if your boyfriend cannot control himself so that you and your ex can resolve your problems, then you might consider that there is a problem with the boyfriend. you might try co-parenting with your ex if you are afraid of losing your son altogether. if you have time for a boyfriend, there's nothing to say he shouldn't have his free time as well. he's at least leaving your son with grandma and not someone that you don't know.
neither of you should use your son as a pawn. fight for him, not with him. if both houses are stable for your son, and he is safe and happy at both, then you should try to allow equal time at both places. he needs both parents and sig others to all love him. make the court battle the last option. it will drain a lot out of all parties, financially, emoitonally, and physically.
2006-06-26 14:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by jamminursite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on where you live the laws are different. your ex might be able to get an ex-parte ( restraining order) for your child against your boyfriend. meaning your child would not be able to be near your boyfriend putting a serious strain on your relationship.
good luck!
2006-06-26 14:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by froggy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont frickin worry about it at all! ... people get in fights.... they dont take kids for that sorry to tell you , you are being paranoid woman... believe me...i have kids and im 33 single mom etc...... you would have to be a un-fit mom.. and because two grown men fought dont make you a bad mother... dont listen to thease other people that say yes... they are insaine...trust me honey ..you have nothing to worry about! THAT GIRL CHRISTY IS INSAINE.... SHE HAS NO IDEA WHAT SHE SAYS...LOL.... ( SHES BELOW ME TWO PEOPLE)
2006-06-26 14:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way your ex can get full custody of your child is if he able to prove you to be a unfit mother
2006-07-02 16:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by abadkittyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he...possibly. The only thing that you could do to negate any claim to sole guardianship would be to separate permanently from your boyfriend.
2006-06-26 14:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋