is it normal for a 14 yr old girl to want to become pregnant?

Question

i don't want to have sex i just want to be pregnant and have a baby

Answer 1

Don't make the same mistake I did...
Dear La’Vitta,

My Precious baby… I miss you so much. I cannot begin to tell you how sorry I am. I regret what I did. I wish I could have died on that table when you did. I thought school and my dreams were more important and that you and I would have a bad life if you were born. Now I realize that you my child, my baby would be more important than any of that. Your birth date is coming up. No matter if I have another baby or not you were my first. You always will be. You are my special baby. I’m so sorry I was supposed to protect you. I was your mom. Ever since they sucked your poor little helpless body out of me I have felt so empty. Nobody knows pain and emptiness like I do. They said you couldn’t feel it but I know you could. I read it in a book that you already had developed your nerve endings. I hope I die as painfully as you. Even more so. I would give anything to take that day back. To have just run out of that room. Out of that murdering house of innocent souls. I wish I could have felt you kick. I wish I could hold you. I would have been the luckiest woman in the world to hold you in my arms. No one told me no Vitta! Everyone told me to do it. Why did I listen to them? I hate Jaime! I hate my mom! And most of all I hate your dad for not being a good person cause if I would have got pregnant by a good man I would have kept you. I was just so scared you wouldn’t have a daddy. Everyone told me if I had you, we wouldn’t have a good life. But Vitta, I would have done everything in my power to make you the happiest little girl in the world. That would have been the best moment in my life, to see you being born. I’d have so many pictures of you I’d have to rent an extra room. I wouldn’t care if a man didn’t want me cause I had you. **** him! I would have worked at Wendy’s all my life if I had to. I couldn’t use the option of adoption cause I just wouldn’t be able to give you away once I seen you or even just you kicking in my belly. How selfish of me. Now here I am still having sex! I have been so destructive to my self and my body since you’ve been gone. Multiple partners, doing porn, lying, cheating, … it’s like I am trying to make myself hurt. Life isn’t worth living without you. When I do have a baby… I will never love that baby like I love you. Any real love I had died when you died. Any ounce of dignity got sucked right out of me along with you. I am so ****** up now. I want to go to that clinic and tell all those girls, don’t do it! Don’t make the same mistake I did! But that won’t bring you back. None of those girls will be affected the way I am cause as I said nobody loves their dead baby more than I do. This is so painful to write but I finally had to do it! I will bury this letter just as you should have been with respect! I was a month pregnant when I found out about you. Took me two months to make a decision. It actually wasn’t completely made up; I just had to do it before the deadline. If I had a little more time to think I wouldn’t have done this. I cried every day you were inside me trying to figure out what to do.
I want to slit my throat. I would imagine my blood is my pain. As the pain seeps out of my body I would slip away to a place of darkness… leaving behind the reality of the horrible thing I did. I can’t live without you anymore baby.

Love,
Mommy

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Answer 2

Maybe you should look at your life before thinking of having a baby.
What are you missing that you feel a baby can give you,
Do you feel un-loved/un-wanted.
Figure out what you want to do with your life before you try to become pregnant.
Im 36 years old with no children,i have my own home,i go on holiday every 6 months,i have a good job,i study with the university to get a better job.
I have been around the world and im starting again.
Dont be fooled into thinking a baby will fill a void,most young people find babies become a burden.
You cant go out when your friends go out,
you cant have your childhood your entitled to because you are too busy being a mother,
Most young parents will tell you if they had their time again they would have waited before having a baby at a young age.
Strive for more for yourself,get good marks in school,get a good job,get your own home,go on holidays of a lifetime everytime you go away.
You deserve all these things,only you can prevent you from having them.
christy

Answer 3

It would appear that sex would be the only way for you to get pregnant, simply because there probably wouldn't be any self-respecting practitioner that would artificially impregnate you at your age. There have been a few women in my family that had children in their teens and I can honestly tell you that there have been an incredible amount of issues that have arisen between the mothers and their children over the years. Both have suffered due to inexperience (not that anyone is a pro when they have their first child), lack of money, patience and support. Please take heed young woman, search your heart and your head for something else you can do that will fulfill you and help you grow and mature as a woman. Look beyond this want and consider that you would be responsible for a human life, that is not your own. Would you not want it to have all of the basic necessities of life plus other pleasures that you would want as a child to help grow into a happy and productive individual. When you are more complete as a person in terms of direction, personal growth, career and maybe a loving partner to share the responsibility, a child will add to your life, not take away. I had my first child at 33 years of age and I can honestly tell you that even with our own home and two succesful careers, having a baby was very hard. She is now 11 and has brought more joy to me than I can put into words. There is no way I could have ever given her the life she has now, had I given birth to her at the age of 14. She would have wilted like a flower starved for water. Please wait, think of yourself and think of your future first. Do something great and you will contribute to great things including raising a wonderful child.
From a Loving Mother.

Answer 4

No! If a 14 year old wants to get pregnant then she doesn't know what exactly that entails. My friends is 14 and she got pregnant and it has ruined her life. The father probably won't stay and the money is hard to come by these days, exspessialy if its a 14 year old mother. Trust me, you don't want to have a kid. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't screw it up. Sometimes people want to have kids early beacause they think the baby will love them unconditionally unlike other people iin the family or enviorment. This is not true. If anything, the baby will come to resent you for having it so early. Don't get pregnant. Not yet anyway.

Answer 5

No it is not normal for a girl at the age of 14 to want to become pregnant. Just think, you are still a baby yourself, and why would you want to take care of another human being? Most 14 year olds do not have the ability to take care of themselves. They do not take the time to think of the many things that you have to do to take care of a child. For instance, do you have a stable job? Babies are very expensive. Are you responsible? Having a baby is a major responsibility. And most importantly, are you ready to give your life up to have a child? You will not have much time to spend with your friends and other things...about ninety percent of your time will be spent on your child. So it is best to have your child when you are older...waaaaay older. More like in your mid-20s when you have financial stability and so on.

Answer 6

Your too young for a baby. Anyone would tell you, babies and young teen mothers don't mix. You need to forget about babies, and get your mind back on school. Finish xschool and go to college, or at least find a career that fits you.
You have all the time in the world for babies. You get pg at the age you are now. You will regret getting that way later on in life. Do things you want to do first, without having a child drag around with you.
You will have to grow up too fast, and be in charge of a new life. Can't get tired and put the kid in the toy chest. You have to feed and change, and etc. Be smart and think about babies when you hit thirty.

Answer 7

You don't want to be pregnant, you want unconditional love and think a baby is the only way to get it. Yes you are too young a baby is not the answer. You are lonely and confused, not the reason to have a baby. Babies are wonderful but are also very hard. I was 24 when I had my first child. I was married in a stable relationship, purchasing a home, able to provide for myself and my child....and it was still hard. Don't kid yourself into thinking this is something you need now, it is something to look forward to when you are an adult. Join a group/sports team do something to do in order to feel a part of something. I think the hole you are looking to fill is loneliness.

Answer 8

i believe that to be normal. You are desiring that bond and want something to love and love you back. Could also want the attention. Try finding a baby sitting job or see if a family friend will let you help her with her new baby. Maybe you could stay with someone who has a newborn for a week or so and see how it differs from the image you have of it. It is a lot of hard work.

Answer 9

It is a game of maturity of the age some time 14 yrs. girl become too mature and some time 34 yrs girl never mature so its a normal thing to be pregnant of a 14 ys girl

Answer 10

I have seen a lot of questions of girls wanting kids,but I'm 14 and don't want kids.just think about it no prom,no dances,no parties,you life becomes all about a baby!and abbys cost a lot of money!and another thing is a baby needs two loving parents I know what it feels like to grow up without a dad it hurts even though I'm a gurl!try geting a babysitting job that way u can still do stuff with baby's but u can return it to it's parents,good luck gurl

Answer 11

ok see here's the reason why you don't need to bring any children in this world..........

you CANNOT become pregnant without having sex ESPECIALLY if you are a healthy person. If you were say 35 years old with uterus problems then there are other methods of having a baby without sex involvement...but since you JUST BARELY GOT OUT OF YOUR OWN DIAPERS....you need to slow your thought process down with all that baby nonsense and stick your head in some books and get educated.

You are not ready for a BABY....you still wiping your own BUTT with the tissue YOUR MOTHER BOUGHT YOU....so keep your head off of babies.....