Why does it hurts for the first time when you have sex?

Answer 1

If the guy breaks the 'hymen', 'pop a cherry' a bit of skin in the vagina then it some times hurts! NOT always tho!

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Answer 2

Well the first time is prolly going to be uncomfortable, Your body hasn't adjusted to a penis, your vagina is a muscle that has delicate tissue that is being stretched open. So it is going to hurt no other way to get around that!!! SO if you u worried about the pain, just know it hurts like hell...Then eventually it gets better!!! But you sound young, don't rush into sex...Its not aways what its cracked up to be!

Answer 3

Because you are breaking the membrane if you are a virgin, and are not used to being stretched out.

Also you may not have had the proper foreplay to get the natural lubricants flowing. You should be soaking wet by the time penetration occurs.

Answer 4

Because your body is not used to it at first once you do it more it won't hurt espically stand up and do the humping and push hard or suck the guys penis then go in with all your force and make the noises

Answer 5

Because women have a thin piece of skin there that is broken when you first have sex.

Answer 6

it hurts because your ripping your cherry try it again in a few days if you do it right the second time it wont hurt

Answer 7

Because your muscles aren't used to being stretched that way. A penis is thicker than a tampon and longer (usually). If they are not, then it doesn't hurt.

Answer 8

Young women have a membrane called a hymen which blocks the entrance to the vaginal canal. This membrane is what most refere to as "virginity". However, the fact of whether a girl has engaged in sex or not is what really consitutes virginity. A young woman can engage in sexual acts which does not affect the removal of the hymen and so still have the hymen intact, yet no longer be a virgin. A girl can also never engage in a sexual act and lose their hymen due to athletic activities such a horseback riding, bike riding, etc, and yet still be a virgin.

It hurts to have the hymen broken. The degree of pain depends on how thick the hymen is. Some girls are very lucky and have very thin hymens while other girls have very thick hymens. The thicker they are the more it hurts to have it broken. When a penis enters the vaginal canal and breaks through the hymen it will hurt and bleed. It can only be a momentary pain, with a small amount of blood and then the girl (if they guy knows what he is doing) can begin to enjoy the sexual encounter soon after, during the initial love making session. For those girls who have thick hymens, they are going to hurt a great deal and have a lot of blood. The thicker the skin of the hymen the more ripping and tearing is involved and so the more the wound area and blood spilled. It can make the young woman hurt for a few days, and if the man does not spend time being gental with her, preparing her, she can be tramatized by the event and not like sex afterwards.

It use to be believed women did not have the capacity to enjoy sex. Men use to just climb on top and pump away, without any regard for how the woman felt. It use to be believed only the lower classes had women who enjoyed sex, and the higher classes were taught they would not enjoy sex and would have to jsut do their "duty" and bear up under the onslaught of a husband who was "taking" his marital rights. Because it was believed women did not enjoy the act, men were seldom gental or considerate of their bodies, often going so far as to rape their wives. Wives who were treated this way dreaded the sexual act and went on to teach their own daughters the horror of the maritala bed and that they would have to "suffer" throught it, but to think of the joy the children they bore through the act and hope they received husbands who "got it finished quickly". How horrid and sad for those women, our ancestors. Men were "off the hook" of having to measure up to pleasing their wives, and so could just do what they pleased without regard to her at all. Some men are still the same way today, not really caring about the pleasure of the woman but only of their own. It takes a bit of practice and unselfishness to take the time to please a woman.

Our bodies do not respond the same as mens do. It takes us longer to come to completion and men have to be patient and do it right in order to put us over the edge. They have to learn to use foreplay, and take the time needed. Women do not help matters by lying to their men about whether or not they had an orgasism. Younger women take longer to reach an orgasim, and often the young men lack expertise in helping them reach it together and so the girls lie in order for the guy to feel better. This traps the girl into never having her guy learn how to properly do the act with her, and so she will go without ever having completion with that guy. This also stops her from learning exactly what they guy can do to help her reach completion, so in each sucessive relationship, (if more than one) she continues to not reach completion during acts of love making with her guy and she feels a need to pretend again. It has been shown that younger women do not reach completion as easily as older women. This is due to the older women having come to know what their bodies need in foreplay and minipulation by the man in order to reach that point of no return and have the mucsles spasm in orgasism. It feels really good. So, if young women always is honest, knows what to expect, understands it may take a bit more and a longer period for her to reach completion she can much more quickly come to really enjoy sex and get her needs met. If she does not know what to expect, how her body works, what feels good for her, or how to communicate this to the man, she is locking herself into years of frustration. Plus, she is telling the man he is a stud, which makes him think he is doing everything right and he will not understand he needs to learn better bedroom skills. This is not fair to either partner.

It a young girl has a bad experiance with a very painful breakage of a thick hymen, she will dread sexual encounters, much like our ancestors did. She will think, or beleave, sex is hurtful and not enjoyable at all. This can make her frigid. If she stays in a relationship with the guy who was so unskilled and selfish as to hurt her so badly, she will never come to enjoy the sexual act. Her lack of enjoyment (the guys fault totally in this case) will create tension in the marriage, where there could have been joy and pleasure which bring two married people closer together emotionally (the other reason God made sex enjoyable), and the man seaks out others to get those needs met. It is very sad. If the young woman finally discovers a way to educate herself, she will have an ability to initiate change. She will need the courage to speak up to her husband and let him know she wishes for a change in their sexual lives. Many women in different cultures get married very young and stay married as long as one is living. In these cases these young women do not have much to compare their husbands to, so if they are having a bad experiance they may not know it can be different. They are stuck and it is sad. I would hope they could speak with their female relatives, yet this type of discussion is discouraged, very strongly discouraged. So, if and when she finds out things can be different, it will be difficult for her to approach her husband. Who I am sure she loves. How horrid to love a man, but fear the intimency of the bedroom, always scared of getting hurt again. Thank goodness the worst pain is over after the first encounter, but she sure is missing out on a wonderful experiance and a method of growing emotionally closer with her husband.

So, yes, it hurts many the first time they have sex. However, how much education and understanding a young woman has about this issue will determine future enjoyment, fullfillment and an incredible path to a close emotional bond with a husband.

Hope this helped in some way. Especially if you are from one of the cultures I mentioned above. Blessed Be.

Answer 9

Cause its the first time that you are being opened to much..............

Answer 10

It doesn't always hurt.