ok i think he is cheating or working on it what do you all think i should do. i have searched his things and found nothing that i know of or should i leave it alone or should i set him up to find out? i feel he is cheating cause he takes two to three showers a day when i meet him he was doing good to take one a day he never worried about his clothes now he stresses if they are clean and today he took an extra shirt with him so he didnt get the one he was wearing dirty he is totally changing his apperance differant clothes style and wants a mohawck he is also 29 so that midlife crisis crap could be on him too i have asked him about all of this and he says he just wants to look good for me but i just keep getting the feeling that he is working on something for someone else aaaagggg i hate this goddamn feeling
2006-06-26 06:35:40 · 10 answers · asked by kiatri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your gut reaction should be looked into. IF it makes a big difference to you, hire a PI and have it checked out. Unfortunately, whether or not you find anything, your trust is gone and it ain't gonna come back. I certainly hope it isn't your imagination, for that would be a real kick in the butt, wouldn't it. On the other hand, his changes in behavior really are suspect. Good luck.
2006-06-26 06:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that if he is just a boyfriend, why bother wasting your time on hiring a P. I. and such. If he is your husband, you might want to just ask him in a serious conversation. You should know if he is lying or not. If you think he is, wait a while. They always tend to screw up. Don't act suspicious or sniff his dirty underwear. That's just sick! Be cool, and then if he is, you need to leave the relationship. Ask him what he thinks about an open relationship...
2006-06-26 06:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by tean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all just sit down with him in all seriousness, no yelling or automatic accusations, just ask him, tell him you've noticed some weird defferences in him and you're concerned. If you still feel you're being lied too, then there is no use staying in a relationship where you don't trust your partner. A self respecting woman should never have to dig through her man's things to know what's going on with him. There should be comunication.
2006-06-26 06:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably think the same thing. I would look for a reason to stop by work unexpectedly. If he is going out "with the guys" alot. I would probably follow him, but have a friend of yours he doesn't know drive, so he doesn't think he was being followed. Once apon a time, I did that trust thing, but I got screwed. If he is not cheating, he shouldn't be upset that you are checking on him. My boyfriend checks on me alot, but it doesn't bother me cuz I ahve nothing to hide. have you thought of having someone good looking hit on him and see what he does?
2006-06-26 06:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and let him know how you feel , and it concearns you .If he is worth your time he would undrstand why it is important to talk and ease your concearn . Without proof you should not jump too much into conclusion as yet. I can see how you can be concearn with his change of patterm the extra showers and change of clothes ...but it can be mid age crises .Some women have it as well . look we get plastic surgery . burst our banks for clothes . Remember don't jeopardize your relationship till you have proof ! Good luck !
2006-06-26 06:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last time i had that feeling it turn out that endeed my hubby was having an affair with a co-worker.. and i did too search and sniff but he knew i would so he would leave all the evidence out of my reach untill one day his retarded *** forgut to delet a message of his cell phone and i heard it... You mush trust you gut feeling.. IT NEVER EVER LIES... go spy on him .. find out for sure...
i know how that doubt can kill.... it happend to me for so long.. but the truth allways comes out... youll see..
questin is can you handel the truth be ready..for anything..
good luck best wishes,,,
2006-06-26 06:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just is tired of getting spied on for no good reason.
2006-06-26 06:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by PermDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sniff his dirty underwear, I know it sounds gross but its one way to find out.
2006-06-26 06:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's summer time now. Maybe he's sweating alot.
2006-06-26 06:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him and even if he says no hire a profesonal
then dump him
2006-06-26 06:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋