2006-06-26 06:20:25 · 18 answers · asked by Fran_pb25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
However long it takes to plan the wedding. If a couple is engaged than they are in agreement to getting married. Why wait 2-3 years? I've never understood long engagements. When I was engaged I was looking at having our wedding 1 year later. My mother in law asked why and I didn't have a good answer. Only thing I could say was I thought that's how it was suppose to be done. I was able to book the church and reception hall we wanted and we got married 6 months later. I am so glad I didn't set some far off date.
2006-06-28 08:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between how long you should date before you get married/engaged, and how long to be engaged before getting married. All that about knowing each other, and working out issues about kids and finances and beliefs...that should be way before engagement! You need to know the person before you even decide to get married. Once you're engaged and you know you want to spend the rest of your life with the guy...it's about when you can afford the wedding(which will depend if it is a big or small wedding) and how much longer you really want to wait before being officially 'man and wife'.
I would say between 4 months and 1 year is a good time frame. You don't want to rush it, you want to have time to let people know and for them to plan it into their schedule to be there. So if it is a small wedding with not many guests and you really just want to walk down the aisle 4 months is sufficient. If you want to give yourself some extra time to let the excitement of the engagement settle and make sure you're really in it for good, or time to get over cold feet plan for closer to a year long engagement. Also if you want to have a big wedding it may take that long to plan everything and be able to save up for it. A year is not so long that it looks like you're just stalling, but more than that might be. Also, anything shorter than four months I think is too short; you need to let the idea that this is forever sink in.
Good luck!
2006-06-26 07:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by just a girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel a person should be engaged at least 1 year before getting married unless they have dated for like 3 years.
2006-06-26 06:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by superman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engagement is a personal choice. A person know whether they want to marry the other within the first 6 months. Engagement is another word for stalling.
2006-06-26 06:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Chyna D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However long it takes to truly know each other. Usually about a year to two years is good. It depends on how much time they spend together. If they are not able to spend a lot of time together then the period is much longer. However long it takes to really know each others souls is how long you should wait before getting married.
2006-06-26 06:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is really a time frame. I only knew my husband for 6 wks when we were married and it was fine. We are divorced now but not because we got married to soon and should have waited but because he meet someone else on line after 10 years of marriage. Getting married after 6 wks didn't have anything to do with it.
2006-06-26 06:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by brown_eyes_jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at best two years. I was with my x for a year before I got married and next time I get married I will date him for two years so that I can see the real him before taking the plunge again.
2006-06-26 06:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like a definite period it should depend on when you decide you're financially able to start a family both of you and ready with a good home and good jobs and so on. You must decide you really wanna spend the rest of your life with him and you must get to know his problems and the bad things in his personality if you'll hanldle living with them your whole life or change your and his personalities to the better. You must also be on the same page and ready for all the obstacles and put some ground rules like if you don't want kids etc.....
2006-06-26 06:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends you how mature you are, but I think a good rule of thumb is a minimum of a year. Anyone that says less than that is not mature enough to answer the question in the first place.
2006-06-26 06:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged 2 months I couldnt wait any longer.But we was dating for 3 years and I known him since highschool.
2006-06-26 06:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋