i have fiancee with whom have a child of 4 years. recently she is acting strange. doesn't do much around the house and does not seem bothered about our life issues. when a friend comes along, she is the first one out the door. the only time we seem to get along is when we party! she does not ask me for anything but i give her alot (but dont get appreciation i deserve), but things are very tense. to the point that my friends told me to send her packing so she will appreciate me and the life she has more, which i did. but i suckered in and we ended up going on a trip after only 3 weeks sending her back. we spent 2 good weeks together and decided to patch things up. she had to go back to her home town for few days and she has started her bad habits again!!
going out till wee hours
and the fight continues.
i have a feeling that she loves her independance too much and only wants me when she is low on cash, as she does not work.
she tells me she loves me, so why does she provoke me?
2006-06-26 06:19:57 · 8 answers · asked by set d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who cares if she loves you or not! Her actions scream, her words are quiet. Don't be a fool...you deserve far better than this, and if it is like this at this point, do you really think it will go anywhere but DOWNHILL ? Wise up, send her packing (I am not a hearless person and usually pick the opposite side), for this one is divorced for a very good reason...and you are finding the reason. You do NOT need to have a significant other, you will be fine on your own, and ... guess what! It won't be long before you find (0r are found) another who will appreciate all you do, all you are, and all you will be. This one will never be that person. Good luck to you both.
2006-06-26 06:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a heart to heart talk with her. People love people for different reasons but it is still LOVE. How do she make you feel? Are you miserable? Is she hurting you or your son or herself? Is she a good mother? You say she don't ask you for anything so it does not sound like she is using you at all. What kind of appreciation are you looking for in return (in detail)? Everyone plays the fool sometimes. But don't stay a fool all the time. You can't let her out your life because you have a child with her. But you can ask her what she want with you and from you. Put all the cards on the table. Pay attention to your heart when you are with her. Good luck
2006-06-26 06:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Chyna D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her. The situation is not going to improve. You are only kidding yourself if you think it will. It might, but very temporary. You should leave her unless you can handle being used. That's it, cut and dry.
2006-06-26 06:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU need to take control and put your foot down and NOT let yourself be taken advantage of any further. It sounds like she is using you. Cut off the money and see how much she really loves you.
2006-06-26 06:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that.
She is attached to your bank account.
She might be a little attached to the stability of you being there to catch her when she is tired from the parties.
But sounds just like she only needs your wallet.
2006-06-26 06:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you should do is stop doing things for her, and see what her reaction will be, she is taking you for granted
2006-06-26 06:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tool. You've been owned.
2006-06-26 06:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she uses you kick her to the curb
2006-06-26 06:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋