im 19 and about to be married my fiance and i are planning to have a child shortly after. my parents dont want me to get married much less have a child and i dont know how to inform them of my plans.
2006-06-26 06:10:50 · 33 answers · asked by ghettomo145 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it don''t matter what they think ur old enough to take care of urself
2006-06-26 06:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by morgan_loves_polina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and they should be happy that you are being responsible and getting married before you have a child! At least you are not a 15 or 16 year old saying you want a baby!! Just tell your parents, if they are good people they will support you even if they dont agree with what you are doing. Good Luck and Congrats on the wedding and soon to be baby!!
2006-06-26 06:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with your fiance for a long time and you are ready for the financial and emotional pressure of having a child just tell them that you have thought about this and discussed it for some time. You want to be a young mother and grow up with your kids. Make sure you can financially take care of your child though because i think alot of parents worry they will get stuck with the bill. I am 32 and my husband and i waited 12 years to have our daughter. My mothers first concern was the money. She helps us out still here and there but it is very costly. make sure that you can depend on yourselves thru this and that confidence will show thru to your parents. Good luck and make sure you have really thought about your decision and how you will present it to them. good to ask other people ideas. It will help with your speech to them.
2006-06-26 06:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by rachelpaul1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still live with your parents, then you should move out and live with your fiance. If you have trouble telling your parents in person try writing a letter and leaving it where they will find it. They can get mad later. They will get over it, especially when you show the plan how you and your fiancee will support yourselves and the baby financially. Usually parents are upset because they burden falls on them financially, and they know you will probably have a really hard time finishing college with a baby. You should move out first and establish yourself independently from them - not taking any money from them. They will get used to it.
2006-06-26 06:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why are you in such a rush to do all of this? Wait 5-6 years, enjoy your youth, and then marry your fiance. He'll still be there, right? One compromise would be to tell your parents that you won't be getting married or having kids right away but will be living together, sharing expenses, etc.
2006-06-26 06:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by angrysandwichguy2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is right for you and your fiance. Your parents will come around when they see that first ultrasound picture. My mom wasn't thrilled either with my first child. She soon changed and we were out shopping together. Now she is a grandmother of 3 and loves it. Just follow your intuition.
2006-06-26 06:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by NaeNae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents don't want you to get married yet then you have a hard task ahead of you my dear. Having a baby that young is hard. It's rewarding but hard none the less, you might want to hold off on the baby just yet. What's the rush?
2006-06-26 06:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur 19 ur a legal adult u can do what ever sep for drink thats when ur 21 but eney way tell them ur an adult u love ur husband and u want to have a family with him and u may be pregant and if the have a problem with it tell them how u feel and how it is going to be now that u are an adult !!!
oh and good luck with marrage and child
2006-06-26 06:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them...Mom and Dad, I'm pregnant. What do you think they're going to do...beat you or disown you? LOL You're an adult...and responsible for your own life. If they don't approve, oh well. You're making the best decisions you know how and doing what you think is best with your life. They should be happy for you, regardless.
2006-06-26 06:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you have cancer and have only 6 months to live. Wait a few minutes, let them spend some time in shock crying, and then say, "Just kidding! Actually I'm pregnant".
They'll be so relieved they won't even be mad about the pregnancy.
2006-06-26 06:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember it is your life not theirs...get straight to the point and tell them...they love you .. be sure & let them know as your telling them that you r thrilled to be having a baby with the man you love and that you & your fiance r going to be great parents because you have learned so many great parenting skills from them and that you know they will make the best grandparents because they have so much love to give .....
2006-06-26 06:13:37 · answer #11 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋