it's in her room. But I think she only has it out to be mean. Because she never wants to see her mother who lives in brooklyn which is 45min. from us. As a matter of fact before my husband and I got married she had the picture in her closet for 4 months. But after we got married and she got mad at me she pulled it out. She makes sure it is facing the door so that everyone can see it,so I tested her to see if she did it just to get under my skin,by facing toward her bed so that she can only see it . She turns it back to the door what do you think??
2006-06-26 06:06:08 · 25 answers · asked by New k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you ask how old ?she's 15
2006-06-26 06:13:02 · update #1
I think you should grow up. Its her Mother .Why would you care?You shouldn't be so insecure.
My mom married a weirdo that wouldn't let me have pix of my dad and the jealousy ended up making my mom leave him(thank god) its like Hello you knew I had a dad when you married my mom you retard.
2006-06-26 06:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce and new parents and situations can be really confusing for kids. It sounds to me like she has a lot of mixed emotions. She may not even realize why she is doing it. And ultimately it really doesn't matter. She probably loves her mother, and may be angry with her as well, maybe because for whatever reason the situation didn't work out for her to live with her all the time. I can't really speak on that because I don't know what the situation is. What I do believe is that its much deeper than her trying to be a brat. She just may not know any other way to express herself. If I were you I would say little in terms of her and her mother, but her father should definitely encourage a relationship between the two of them. I would let her know that you are not trying to take her mother's place, but that you are there for her if you need her, and other than that, there is not much more you can do.
2006-06-26 13:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by mzstorm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your business what pictures she displays, especially if it's her family.
Keep in mind you can never replace her mother. You will always be the person who married her father. It's also not your business what relationship she has with her mother- 'sees or not sees'. It's her mother for eternity, that's the fact.
You will have to work much harder to win her respect and love, because you are the outsider. So be patient and don't force a relationships with her until she is ready. Having to live with another grownup when it's not your decision is very hard for children. Their feelings must be respected.
Think of ways to spend time with her instead. She is at a age where you can take her to shop and lunch. Have a girls day out.
Most important, talk to her instead of talking 'about her'.
2006-06-26 20:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by rmpbklyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is trying ti hurt you a little but you have to realize it is a lot for a teenager to except a new (so called mom) she will probably do it for awhile and the only thing I can tell you is to be patient always let her know your not trying to take moms place but that you will be there for her if she ever needs you and dont be judgemental towards her over her picture and the most important thing is never say anything against her mom know matter how you feel just keep it to yourself she will eventually come around give her time.
2006-06-26 13:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter if she doesn't completely want to see her mother or not. She obviously wants the picture out so let her have it. I mean I have a picture of my dad in my room out for people to see but I don't like to go see him. No matter what her reasoning yous should respect the fact you are not or real mother and that's her choice.
2006-06-26 13:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a teen. They love one minute, hate the next. But, who is not entitled to keep a photo of their own mother? It is her father's house and not a concentration camp. Why would a grown woman even pay attention to such a thing. If I were you, I would encourage family harmony. You married a man knowing he had an ex-wife and children. Why are you so insecure? This is not about the daughter or photo of her mother. This is about you and you are looking really insecure bordering on insane jealousy.
2006-06-26 14:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by Joyce R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u dont like her to begin with, bet u complain about her all the time but not to ur hubby! who cares, its a picture of her mom and she's 15, what r u going in her room for anyway? quit pickin on her and let her have her teenage angst, u say she never wants to see her mom, now she has 2 moms that she has problems with, try a little one on one time w/ her, lunch every sunday, or a movie. give her a positive female role model, and quit b n petty she's just a kid and will do childish things, just b her friend she has a mom and mayb u can work thru it. also takes about a good year for everyone to blend and get comfortable w/ new situation like that.
2006-06-26 13:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by Miss B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about the pic it's there for support my son does the same thing he has a pic of his mom too that i have to look at even though i can't stand the woman. he dosen't want to go to her house either but he keeps the pic out also she never wants to see him she says he is a burden to her and is only a problem as some of the other people have answered just let it go . even though she dosen't want to see her mom dosen't mean she dosen't love her, the only thing you can do is make a bond with her and show her that you can be just as good as a mom as her mom except the only thing separating yall is that she gave birth to her it takes alot of work but it can be done. i know you can do it and hope for the best. i am divorced and have had the same thing happen with my ex gfriend and her son and daughter they acted the same way twords me when i was around them and i was with their mother.
2006-06-26 13:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by michael m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like she's tryin to make you mad. She should be allowed however to have her moms pic in her room though. What I would do if I were you is put it in a nice frame & actually hang it in her room where only she can see it but make it look like you were tryin to do something nice for her. Put a cute little swag over it to so that you'll look like the good guy. Then she'll have her pic & you wont have to see it. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-26 13:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that because you married her father, that her mother somehow stops being her mother? It is perfectly natural for step children to want to make it "perfectly clear" that their loyalty is to the "real" parent. You should be accepting and supporting her in this loyalty and love, not resenting it.
A step child is always going to want things to be "like it was when Mommy and Daddy loved each other and we were happy and everything was perfect". Step parents who resent this are being childish themselves.
2006-06-26 13:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋