2006-06-26 06:03:31 · 9 answers · asked by ditto06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely!! Pre-nuptial "agreements" are a self fullfilling prophacy, in which both potential "partners" are acknowleging the marriage may not last. I firmly believe these types of agreements are an unhealthy manner of entering into what should be considered a totally committed relationship in which both parties agree to do everything possible to sustain it. I would never enter into a marriage with an agreement of how to handle things should it end. How sad for those who do. Marriage is a life long committment and if a man needed me to sign a paper, then I would know he has doubts of our sustainability. While individuals change over time, the union should accomadate those changes, be prepared for them and meet each challenge head on together as a team and not ever say "if it ends, we will do such and such". Bull, double bull. This is simply the wrong attitude to take into a marriage. I beleave these types of agreements pactically garantees a divorce down the road. There is just not a strong sence of safety and securing with such agreements. I would never, ever, marry a man who asked me to sign such a document. What is mine is his and what is his in mine, what is mine and what is his is OURS. The marriage is of the utmost value far beyound any finacial considerations. I would not care if my man lived in a hut or a cave, I would be with him anywhere under any cercumstance. If he were to lose everything today, it would not change my love and devotion for him, nor would I consider for one moment leaving him. If he were to have a huge income and I a smaller one, this would not matter to him either, nor to me if it were the opposite. It is the soul I am interested in, not the outer trappings, like looks or finances. Those come and go, the soul is forever. How do you place a pre-nup on a soul? LOL
This is nothing like car/home/life insurance. That is for preperation of life events not related to a marital union future breakup, but to protect both members of the union in the event of trouble outside the union itself. It has nothing to do with the health of a relationship, and relationships should not be "planned" for future failares. How silly! LOL
2006-06-26 06:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's how I feel! My uncle married a very wealthy woman and HE offered to sign a pre-nup to show her but mostly her children and the rest of her family that he didn't want her money. If she thought it would last, she wouldn't have drawn one up. She did have him sign one and when she divorced him (she lost A LOT of weight and decided she didn't want to be tied down) her money was safe. If love and trust one another, it won't matter.
2006-06-26 06:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's like saying is having car/home/life insurance asking to have an accident/fire/loss of life. It is just a type of insurance for the unimaginable and a decision you should both make together.
2006-06-26 06:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by shiggs3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Pre-nups are selfish.
2006-06-26 06:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I see it as more of a way to make sure you cannot be taken advantage of if things don't work out.
2006-06-26 06:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe so...That is why I don't believe in pre-nups...Why get married if you are having doubts...
2006-06-26 06:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! nicely,nicely,nicely !! I guess she grab the phone in a hurry the marriage can now ensue !! she will be able to now purchase the guy a personality to compare his ............nicely you get the photo!
2016-11-15 06:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either that, or theres trust issues!
2006-06-26 06:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so
2006-06-26 06:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋