me and my feince have a child together ,but we still live with my parents
2006-06-26 05:53:42 · 20 answers · asked by lacie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's doesn't matter if you're in school, what matteris how mature you both are.
My husband and I were both 19. We were on our own, had stable jobs (I was in the Navy and he was in the Marine Corps), were financially independent, and more mature than most our age. We didn't like going out and partying or drinking (we out grew that stage in high school) and we knew we loved each other. It worked for us but it is harder. Statistics are against us but we know we'll last.
There are advantages to waiting but if you really love one another, and you'll willing to deal with extra issues (it is very hard) then get married now.
2006-06-26 06:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not get married until you both, and I mean both of you are done with school. First, thank your lucky stars that your parents will allow you, your child, and your fiancee to live with them. Second, you will need a good job to support yourself and this child. Third, you may really want to think this marriage over before you go for it. Things can change between now and when you finish school. Your boyfriend doesn't sound very responsible if he is also living with your parents. Good luck and I hope things work out for the best.
2006-06-26 06:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by JMS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! It sounds like you already put a lot of unnecessary stress on your plate, but I would wait it out before adding more. If you love each other and want to be married some day, there is no reason why you need to rush it. Get out of school first and take time so that your wedding will be your dream day rather than a nightmare. Trust me, my friends just had their wedding, we are all very young, and it was wonderful for them to be married but the sheer stress of planning the wedding was very hard on them.
2006-06-26 06:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love him and he's a good father you should go and marry him and everything will go good for you and your family.living with your parents is really showing you how to have more responbilites since your a mother and soon to be wife so soon you have an house or an a apartment and you really love life having to wake up in your own place cooking in your kitchen and serving food for your husband an child so you married him your a grown woman and making sure you get an educated thats really great so good luck
2006-06-26 06:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by ben10grl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not be best. You would each get less funding from the government for college if you were married, as compared to if you were single. Enjoy being in a relationship together some more first.
2006-06-26 07:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by shelleygail76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say absolutely not! Even though you have a child together. Marriage sooo young is too much; especially while in college too. You have enough on your plate right now, I would wait it out.
2006-06-26 05:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must understand what marriage is and will be. Things will change, people will change. You are still young and have to find a job to support your family. I would at least wait till both of you can financially support a family. You can't live with mom and dad .
2006-06-26 05:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right in the sense of the only person you want to be with. of course. right to be a proper parent. of course. can u get through college if you're married? sure you're more stable. if the parents are willing to let u live with them, say thank you. you've got a bird nest on the ground. go for it.
2006-06-26 06:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by bardmere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents got married at 17..still married 35 yrs later..i got married at 23..still married 6 yrs have 2 kids, and i know i will live my life out with this man...search your heart, if there is any doubt give it thought...
2006-06-26 06:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO I don't think it would be right to screw-up your whole life, get a career, have a life and whatever you do, don't get married before you are 30!
2006-06-26 05:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by DarkStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋