I tend to be extremely judgmental...What... should I do about this?

Question

I am in college and I tend to be judgmental about people...and for some reason I can't seem to get beyond this...basically I want you guys to give me your BEST shot as to why I SHOULDNT be judgemenal...Oh and by the way if you're going to say that "you wouldnt like to be judged yourself" that answer won't work b/c I have no problems with others assessing me or my actions/character.

Answer 1

Judgmental people usually feel better about themselves by judging others. Much like gossips, they do it to feel superior, but can use the "I'm not gossiping" excuse. Unless you really believer yourself better than anyone else, (and if that's the case, you have a huge ego problem than you should see a shrink about), I suggest you realize that your opinion isn't in the least important to those you're "judging", but only serve to make you look extremely small, petty and ugly.

Answer 2

Quite often people who are judgmental feel that they are superior to other human beings, i.e., you would have handled a situation better, your answers would have been better, or you would have known better. Also judgmental people find it very hard to accept people as they are or for themselves. To a judgmental person human weakness is unacceptable. You will never get over being judgmental, you will just have to learn how to handle it in an acceptable manner. Take a long look at yourself. Reflect back. Ask yourself......... When exactly did you become superior? Do you not make mistakes. Does being judgemental affect your relationship with other people? What has happened that has made you question being judgmental? You obviously don't like being judgemental anymore, so, you just need to break the habit. You have to learn to accept other people as they are, not as you would want them to be. Let me tell you, this is a very hard thing to do but it can be done.

Answer 3

I am also this way...I have learned over the years that I need to think before I speak...that is powerful advice, but harder than it seems. Ask yourself these questions before throwing your 2 cents in:

Did they ask your opinion? or will your comment be viewed as being nosy and rude?
How will this person benefit from your comments?
How well do you know this person?
How would you feel if this comment came between you and this person? Is it worth it to you?
What are your intentions? Make them known. example: "I am saying this because...or "try looking at it this way"....

Use your words wisely....I have found that with some people no matter how nice you try to be will take things the wrong way...you need to ask yourself is THIS person like this?

Also keep in mind the effect your judgments have and if they will turn to you for advice again.

Answer 4

Try to expand your horizons reading fiction and literature in bookstores while chewing on a bagel. After seeing a feature movie with the loved person you will find heaven does look different, instead of looking for awe and science in such facts, attempt to indulge in food intaken and the love you feel at such controversy. Do not avoid being judgmental, see the actual effect it carries and enjoy the company. Drink some warm milk at bed and go for more thrills. It is wise to be judgmental.

Answer 5

Well being judgemental isnt necessarily a bad thing. You shouldnt let it hold you back. Give everyone a chance to show their true colors and be open to the idea that you may be wrong. Because as it is so wisely said "you cant judge a book by its cover"

Answer 6

why worry about it.
I judge all and care less about being Judged.
Just shows yer a good judge of charecter and not a sign of weakness.

Answer 7

It's not beneficial for you or the other person. A waste a time and breath.

Answer 8

you are what you are why worry we all have our faults