My best friend confessed to me that her and her ex, they just broke up, had sex and she was pregnant but she had a miscarriage over that weekend at a tournament! I already told her that she could get over him because i have been in a similar situation. But she won't believe me what should i say to her she is my best friend and a lot of what i say just makes it worse. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVISE AND WORDS TO SAY!
2006-06-26 05:45:00 · 11 answers · asked by vtowngirl08 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i think you just need to give her some time to get over it. it make take a while though. take her out to do some fun things. movies, shopping, girls night out. those always cheer my friends up even in the darkest of times...
2006-06-26 05:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by americanqt93 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a girls night out, just you and her, and let her slowly get back into the single life. With the miscarriage it will take a while to heal mentally and physcially. She is urning for the child she wanted. So, don't talk about the miscarriage unless she brings it up, don't baby her, give her space to sort things out, let her know you will be there, and then let her come to you, if you bring up the baby,and the man, she will push you aside, because that's all she thinks you want to talk about, and she will be angry. Talk about something else to her ask her how she's doing if she says fine, leave it at that, don't push it,
2006-06-26 05:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by ButterPecan Rican 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in life is easy, and for something like love an relationships it takes alot of time to over come it. Get her on here and have her ask how do u get over a broken heart personal stories only please. And she'll see she's not the 1st to go through it and she won't be the last she can even ask them to write there ages and she'll see it happens to everyone at all ages, and she's not alone. The best way to get over a broken heart is to concentrate on herself, she needs to do stuff that makes her happy.
2006-06-26 06:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pumkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her some time to think about it dont bring up the problem for a couple of days. and if she wants u to talk about it wit her just tell her how u got over the similar situation it may help her and if she think it wont work tell her u had a miscarriage and its over with him and her dont even think about it what happend is all done and over with it may help her understand . ive never been in a problem like this but i hope i helped a little
2006-06-26 05:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's very lucky to have a friend that cares for her so deeply. You're a good friend.
What you need to tell your friend is that #1. she needs to go to a clinic or hospital to make sure she's ok down there. Sometimes miscarriges can leave uteral scarring preventing future pregnancies ( you know when she's older and married and wants to have children then. )\
#2. You need to tell your friend that she has the power to make everything better. Tell your friend that everything happens for a reason ( even though we may not know or understand why ). You need to tell your friend that this is not the end of the world and her whole life is waiting for her to live it. Tell your friend that happiness is a choice that only she can make. Let your friend know that even though it may hurt now it does'nt have to hurt forever. Let her know that she's the only one that can make that choice to not hurt anymore. Let your friend know that you're there for her anytime she needs you and that she's not alone.
Let your friend know that she needs to stay strong and not give in to the pain. Tell your friend that it's only the end of the world if she allows it to be. Tell your friend that she's worthy of being happy. She's worthy of love. She worthy of being happy. Tell your friend that she deserves all the things that she wants in life. Tell her that the guy she was messing around with is NOT worthy of her. Tell her that HE'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER.
I hope this helps. I wish you both the best. It's not easy being so young but it can be worth it.
2006-06-26 06:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by ilah23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is stubborn you might not be able to to do nothing about it. I know what your saying because the situation ur in with ur friend i was in before. But they can be so blind they dont see reality. What i did after i gave up. My friend went back to him broke her heart then she came up to me telling me i should have listen to u. In other words she learned from her mistake. People thes day is blinded by "love" when its really. Infactuation
2006-06-26 06:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is be prayerful and be there for her comforting her. Try not to say too much, listen more than you talk. (tell her) I'm here for you if you need me. I'll always be here to listen.Keep her busy to keep her mind occupied make her laugh and assure her that this will not last always this too shall pass. Good Luck.
2006-06-26 05:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by misstree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young love sucks sister, and it doesn't get any better when you get older. The pain is just the same. Give her some time, in a few months she'll be saying "John, John who?"
2006-06-26 06:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by little fairy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her your question on here and she will see your for real about this!and show her the responses so she'll know she deserves better and she'll be fine!I thought the same thing when I broke up with my ex boyfriend but he was cheating on me I thought I loved him but now I know I didn't!and sweety do u really love someone who left u when you were pregant?u deserve o soo much more!good luck
2006-06-26 06:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some time to grieve and she'll get over him all by herself. the baby is another story though, she'll never really get over that.
2006-06-26 10:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋