Lately i haven't been very nice to people. I'm not a bad person, i hope, but i've gotten angry a few times and sworn openly with vengance. It's not really directed at anyone, but the people i care about are the ones that get affected most. They're not used to seeing me like this. I'm not used to being like this. Is it just a phase or am i doomed for the rest of my life with a dirty mouth and a bad disposotion?
2006-06-26 05:27:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Wow, you are so cool. Usually foul people don't realize they are foul. I think there are times when it is completely necessary to unleash on someone. Make it brief and get out ASAP, walk away.
What if you meet a guy that you like, but he gets you alone and he's about to molest you or do something you don't want to be involved in like rob a bank. That's the time to unleash, OK. So, don't feel bad.
If this is getting out of control, maybe your expectations about life are unrealistic. You are experiencing frustrations in one part of life and taking it out on others, miss directed anxiety.
Anger management?
Meditation was invented to direct our minds to a peaceful state. Study and practice meditation, and keep this as a life long skill.
Think ahead of a confrontation and decide how you want to act it out. Practice a calming routine before the conflict occurs.
Turn negative feelings to positive ones in the routine.
2006-06-26 05:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
It's a normal human emotion to be angry now and then for good reason. Supressing your anger is not healthy and always has long-term negative consequences for you and others around you that are worse than expressing and dealing with the anger properly in the first place. If anyone is pressuring you to never express any anger and always be sweet and submissive, or if you are putting that pressure on yourself, it is unrealistic and damaging.
But it does help to learn to express and use your anger in constructive ways. If you just vent insults and abuse and hurt people (or misdirect it at people who have not caused the anger in the first place), it doesn't help you solve the root cause... what made you justifiably angry in the first place. It just damages your credibility and relationships instead. Get in the habit of stepping away for a minute or two when you feel yourself becoming angry, to take a deep breath, calm down, and THINK. Figure out what it is that you are really angry about, and who you are really angry with. Then, go back to the person at the root cause and address it ASSERTIVELY, but not vengefully, in a way that will change things for the better.
Having a physical outlet, like running, yoga, or kickboxing, helps support your ability to do this too. Good luck.
2006-06-26 05:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress needs to be vented. If its not vented verbally or physically, its internalized, leading to heart problems, strokes, auto-immune diseases. Anti-depressants help, but take a long time to become effective (to make the 'new you'). Some foods which cause the release of endorphins are hot peppers, wasabi, cumin. The hotter the better. Try it! Its amazing. Stay away from depressants like alcohol. As tempting as it is to wash that spicy burrito down with a cold Corona, DON'T. Choose lemonaide.
2006-06-26 05:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by davidosterberg1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey kiddo
Are you going through one of lifes changes?
Puberty if your young
menopause if older
If so BINGO that is it... Mood swings
If not then you need to look at what has been going on from right before this started on through to now and see what has changed.
Broke up with boyfriend, arguement with every day friend some one sat on your twinkies.
Hope you figure it out...
2006-06-26 05:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It take 13 days to leave a bad havets, so just control your self, no matter what's going on in your life right now, I'm sure there is people with worst problem than yours.
2006-06-26 05:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by ddormanni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your attitude! If anyone treated you the way you are treating yourself, would you tolerate it? And why should anyone want to put up with your temper? You can learn to express yourself creatively. Go to an anger management group meeting and learn from others.
2006-06-26 05:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Chew on this! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need God's help. Pray to HIm and ask Him to bless you with a sweet and kind Spirit. He will know what's wrong with you and He'll help you to get rid of any anger you may have in your heart. Just talk to Him.
2006-06-26 05:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by missdelawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop smoking pot or doing drugs or drinking.
Second, Enroll in anger managment classes or attend an military school for a while. that'll shape your as s up.
2006-06-26 05:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are beginning to lose control of what your mind is doing. There is something that you are mad at. You may not know what it is, and that's why it comes out at random times. You have to figure out what it is, and resolve it.
2006-06-26 05:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surround yourself with posative things like music, movies, and friends. Filling your enviornment with good will encourage you to act good.
2006-06-26 05:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lord_of_Armenia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋