Is love enough contiued...
Reason i asked is, me and my boyfriend love each other, live together, fancy each other, sex is great and still every day. been 2gether 2 years, living together one, make each other laugh, have great friendship... but its not working?
Im in love with him and he's in love with me.... why? we want the same things, have the same goals and ambition....
why isnt it working?
2006-06-26 04:54:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, sorry to hear this babe.......
Some times when you meet and fall in love with someone it works out perfect... More often than not it doesn't.
With what you say everything should be perfect with no hick-ups, however there has got to be some other factors that you may not have considered.
Aiming for the same goals is only right when both of you are going at the same speed. Making each other laugh is fab, but sometimes you need to be serious. Having a great sex life is healthy, but only if it's not to cover up something that is wrong in your relationship (ie/ lust takes over confrontation ) and being friends is so important as long as the friendship doesn't turn into ( i love you like a brother )......
I think you need to also look to outside influences that may be in your subconcious. You might be suprised at what you find.
All this into consideration you will discover 1 of 2 things....
1) You really don't belong together ( and end it amicably)
2) You really do belong together ( you've just hit a bad patch)
Either way you really need to communicate with eachother and express your inner most feeling and worries.
Take care babe, I hope you resolve this quickly with out any pain.
2006-06-27 08:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by sukimitchell 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are happy with what you do and what you think,having same thoughts and dreams make you what you need in the real sense,nothing can work more better than what you experience the way you have explained...this is how people find them the happiest being on the world map...just one suggestion,express your love before others may be your friends and relatives.They will definitely tell you what a beautifull pair you people make.....cheers!!!
2006-06-26 05:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by saurabh s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something to think about
First and foremost, we all have different views on relationships whether they be friendships, boyfriends/girlfriend relationships, "friends with benefits", husband/wife relationships, or just plain old associates (people we associate with on the job but don't really care all that much about). Well, several years ago I wrote a short letter for someone to there wife. i know that sounds strange, but this person was having trouble finding the right words to say to let his wife know that he really did love her and appreciated her being there for him during the good and the bad times. So now, I want to share the short version of that letter with you and get some feedback from you if I can. So sit back and relax and enjoy the ride.....
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HUMAN LOVE is a living thing, always changing. It changes as we change, and sometimes we shape it ourselves. We put conditions on it, such as 'I'LL LOVE YOU IF YOU'LL LOVE ME," or "I'LL LOVE YOU IF YOU COME UP TO MY EXPECTATIONS." We use a persons color or age to justify whether or not we ourselves or others should be in love with someone of the opposite sex.
For years people have been in love and for years we have allowed other people's opinions to persuade us who we should be involved with. Solitary or being alone is no fun. Its like being in a dark room watching life pass you by. True indeed there is a special bond or connection between close friends, but there is even a more stronger devotion between two people who are in love. Love is not something that just happens over night nor can it be turned on and off like a light switch. A persons love for another person is the key element to them being together. But even under the best of circumstances. love is never easy. It takes work. It takes faith. It takes commitment. It doesn't mean that there would never be disagreements or quarrels, but by caring about one another ways can be discovered on how to resolve conflicts without having to feel that any one person wins or loses.
Love. Pure, simple, unquestioning love, the kind of patient devoted love between two people that swells with the passage of time, that grows stronger in the face of adversity. A commitment is like a tree that takes root. The longer it stands, the deeper the roots grow. And love is the richest growing soil.......
With that said, maybe its time to look at the amount of time you two are spending together and decide whether or not its TIME TOGETHER that is now making your relationship go stale for the time being.
2006-06-26 05:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is because you people put sex much more higher in your love-making than any other issues of life. To be together is to unite and plan for better future about your being together rather than staying in bed for sexual purposes or the others. For example, I have my partner who is about 50 years old and I am 56 years now. But we cannot separate from each other because any time we meet, we discuss about our future family development affairs, but not sex or expressions of "I love you". It can take us one month on the same bed without sex but we are always in love. O.k.?
2006-06-26 05:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Francis Sahr Bobor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you don't love each other, you are just in 'lust'. I've had that kind of relationship and it does wear out eventually.
If it's not working though, get out, life is tooooo dam short.
2006-06-26 05:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by millie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-06-26 06:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is not working,????????????????/
2006-06-26 05:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by raja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋