I dated my ex for 4 years (he's married). I asked him to make up his mind and not to go on a vacation with her ( I was suppose to be there{i cancelled my plans}) so he went I started dating a really wonderful guy. But the love isn't completly there. I still see my ex on the side.
2006-06-26 04:30:45 · 21 answers · asked by lexiekitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
keep him on the back burner dont cut him off completely but deal wit him on your terms
2006-06-26 04:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to let him go now, for crying out loud he's married!! Ask yourself, do you want to be the source of a broken home? If your answer is no, then stop seeing him all together. No phone calls, text messages, e-mails, secret rendezvous's, all of that should have stopped yesterday!! As for the guy that you are with, explore him more. Figure out what's missing. If this is a guy that's a rebound man or a comparison man, it's possible the relationship might fail. Make a decision and be able to stand firm behind it, but leave your MARRIED ex alone please. Be careful and good luck.
2006-06-26 04:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on you. Things are getting too complicated to deal with two men. One is married -forget him! You don't "completely" love the other one -slow down. I'm not judging. I've been in messed up, "morally wrong" situations in the past. I had to quit them both.
Don't be the married guy's piece on the side. Set things straight with the other guy. Good luck.
2006-06-26 04:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you're being really unfair to the other bloke by keeping him just as a filler, but I also think you're being unfair to yourself still seeing a married man. If he's still with his wife then you're letting him have his cake and eat it too! He's going to be loving it, two women at his beck and call. Be honest with yourself and this new man (who you can't be feeling love for anyway because you can't get to know him properly whilst your feelings are elsewhere), break off both relationships and start a fresh!
2006-06-26 04:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by galaxygirl_00_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to leave each other alone b/c all you are doing are playing games. Games end up with kids and an ugly divorce. Will you be there to hold his hand when he goes through that?
If you don't enjoy being with your new guy then why bother.
You're not going to be able to move on anyway until you let him go.
2006-06-26 04:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes it is but maybe he should be the one asking it not you ....hes married and seeing you on the side ? don't you think hes keeping you on hold possibly forever?...and do you really think its fair seeing a man who is married..how do u think his wife will feel when she finds out ? and if they have children together how do u think those kids will feel ? it is never good to date a married man to many people involved get out of it & stay away from him this relationship u have with him is not good for any one involved
2006-06-26 04:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion having two people isn't right. You cant give a fare shot to the new guy if your still seeing the old one. Try loosen the old one and maybe the love or lust may start with the new one.
2006-06-26 04:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by little_angel_in_eugene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want to know if its ok to keep your MARRIED EX on hold while you see what your going to decide to do with the wonderful guy ?? Where is the married guy going ? Are you worried if you put him on hold he will find another cheater to cheat with ?
2006-06-26 04:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get it together first off and not date a married man....bad dookie. Date the new guy, you don't have to get serious, you can date other people too. Just make sure they aren't married!!
2006-06-26 04:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by terrapinqueen76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy you have a problem of being alone, and wanting your cake and eating it too...You will never fill complete getting your affection from here and there and everywhere...that kind of mentality will always keep you emotionally unstable...look for a man to complete you and allow yourself to give 100% of yourself in return.
2006-06-26 04:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep cn ur ex n see how it works out...with him being married that could change a LOT of things...so just kinda go along with both n c which one works out or until u decide what you want
2006-06-26 04:36:53 · answer #11 · answered by Pr!nC3s$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋