i always try to keep the people i love happy...but why am i still not understood & end up getting hurt?? is it because i should not expect anything in return of whatever i give...not even their undoubted support?? or am i being overly sensitive & should take things more lightly??
2006-06-26 04:02:27 · 5 answers · asked by Pari 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
perhaps you are being a little too giving and people have become used to that and now expect that of you all the time? This sounds cruel but you must learn to be a little more selfish at times, don't just jump whenever anyone asks you to do something, be a little bit more reserved in that you don't just have to make everyone else happy, you also have a right to be happy. Don't be a door mat, stop letting people walk all over you, I am not saying turn into a selfish cow but just let people know that you also have a life. If this does not work then speak to people and say you feel taken for granted. You shouldn't expect anything in return as it is sadly human nature for people to be thankless, but you will be rewarded in other ways, good deeds don't go totally un-noticed.
2006-06-26 04:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you are a kind person who wants to do nice things. But you are probably expecting something in return. It may be verbal appreciation of what you did or a pat on the back. When you fail to get the response you want, you feel hurt.
People don't always respond the way we want, not mater how reasonable we think we are. Be nice, be kind but be less sensitive about the way people respond. Some people are not demonstrable with their appreciation.
2006-06-26 04:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Answer_dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone See's things differently it is just how it works some people have to change the way their feeling into words that the people there telling can understand. If that doesn't work use simple emotion like crying to show your unhappy you must talk thing out until they understand. Make sure you don't mix to many issues together or they will get confused and see thing differantly then you.
2006-06-26 04:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by docterwannabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice is don't expect ANYTHING... I've learned that the hard way. Don't try to make everyone happy cause it never works. Concentrate on yourself. Good luck.
2006-06-26 04:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its becos u always try to make them happy they always expect that from u its time u think about urself for once.
2006-06-26 04:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋