i coght my 11 yr old son having sex wit his gf?

Question

wht should i do

Answer 1

Because of the very poor spelling I wonder if you aren't the 11 yr old asking this question.

However...

If as a parent you caught your son having sex with his gf the worst thing you can do is make a BIG production of it! True 11 is a little young for either the boy or girl but this day and time, it is not uncommon.

The best thing you can do is talk with the young boy and explain to him that it isn't proper for him to do at his age. You will not be able to stop him from having sex now even at his young age. But you can advise him as to the things that could happen such as pregnancy or STD's.

You should also tell him that if he does continue to do so you would rather have him at home in a safe place rather than out in a back alley or bushes in a park where they could both be in danger of some predator should they be found. Have him make a special little sign to hang on his door that will tell you he is in with a gf. Is this the best solution? No, but short of chaining him to the house it is actually your best option. Also be prepared to deal with angry parents of the girl as well and explain that you can't really stop them because they will have sex but you want them to be in a safe place. Also insist on condoms and supply them.

I know this isn't the answer most would give but it is the most practical under the circumstances.

Answer 2

Why does your 11 year old have a girlfriend to begin with?? I wouldn't let my 11 year old date. I would have a serious talk with the two of them and perhaps talk to the girls parents about it as well so at least if they are together at her house they will know to watch out for that kind of thing. That is just not acceptable when you're 11. I would take some serious action if I were you. Tell him sex can wait, masturbate!

Answer 3

EW, first off, 11 year olds shouldn't never know what sex is! Has anyone called you a bad parent yet? If they have don't listen, it's not all your fault, blame TV and if you're divorced, blame the other parent. Sit him down and tell him that sex should be between a MAN and a WOMAN who LOVE each other very much. That sex is bad for children, and children come out of it. Explain the risks, Aids, STD's, and CHILDREN. Also, you don't seem too old if you can't type very well.

Answer 4

Why does an 11 yr old have a girlfriend? Why would they be in a place where they could even have sex? I've noticed that some of the answers that you have gotten, talk about your son being to blame, or yourself. However, maybe it was your son's girlfriend that coerced him. Maybe she has been exposed to situations that are not normal. If she coerced him, then maybe she is in danger at home. You definitely need to get the answers straight and talk to her parents.

Answer 5

First I advise to you to pray about it. I am a believer in Christ and a strong believer that prayer does change things. This is not a time to go blaming yourself or thinking that there was something that you did wrong as a parent. Now that you are aware of his curiosity and temptation~address it. Is his father in the home? Or is there a strong male rolemodelt hat you can have sit down and talk to him about it? How is your relationship with your son? Can you trust thtat he will be honest with you? I ask because you need to have a heart to heart with him. Explain having the thoughts and even the curiosity is normal but acting on it is so irresponsible. Explain to him how important it is to keep his body clean until he marries and the importance of not doing what everybody else maybe doing. Further talk to him about pregnancy and disease. Most of all discipline him. This will teach him that his behavior is not one you approve of and that it is wrong. He is still a child. Remove some of his priviledges and explain how important it has to become for you to be able to trust him in your absence. I also agree in telling her mom. Its sad that temptation is coming earlier and earlier to children in the form of sex. I have two toddler boys and I can't imagine the age they will be when they are faced with this same issue. I will be praying for you as well.

Answer 6

First, have the sex talk with him and tell her parents. They'll want to know! Then since he violated your trust, you need to get him a babysitter for anytime you cannot be with him (especially during the summer). If he's going to make stupid choices, you gotta protect him from himself. And sex at 11 is a stupid choice! If you don't give him some very serious consequences you'll be a granny by the time he's 12.

Answer 7

talk straight to him. this is obviously something that you can't tell him not to do and expect that it'll never happen again because if there is a will there is a way. tell him about protection and the risk of diseases and what the diseases can do. go to websites together for the information. explain how men and women are supposed to relate and the importance of taking care of women and not treating them like objects. 11 is very young and he's still developing into the man that he will someday be. Teach him Right from Wrong.

Answer 8

i cant say 11 yrs shouldn't be have Sex cuz u know that what i can say since he is already and it's something u cnat stop then talk to him let him know what kind of STD's there are out there.... let him know how he should protect himself and how maybe he shold hold off on it for know and tell the girls parents.... I mean what kinda future do u think she holds at 11 and already doing thing I'm not sexes cuz i'm a Women my self but i see it from the society point of view...... I thin kher paretn have the right to know that way maybe they can talk to her about how she shold protect her self .... Good luck

Answer 9

well i think that a 11 year old seriously should not be doing that, most 11 year olds are not even mature yet,so any who, it would be hold old is his girlfriend, and well maybe talk to your son and tell him to wait till he is older for sex because sex is a serious commitment, and he could ruin his life before he even grows up,so he could not be a kid still he would have to be a dad, maybe scare him with that, i know nobody told me but i heard enough at school to know well atleast i'm the only girl who isn't a tramp in my grade, sorry but i'm 14 but i sure as He** know that sex is way to much of a comitment.

Answer 10

OMG!! You need to contact the girls parents. Maybe all you sit down together. Talk to your son show him pictures what ever works, he needs to know about everything out there. He is prob going to say I already know but you need to be the one to tell him no matter what he says. I cant imagine what you are going through. I have a daugther thats 9. Good Luck!!!