If you discuss piecings with your teen daughter and told her no piercings until she move out and she got piecings anyway what will you do? Initially i stated if you do this while living here you will have to move. Am i being too strict. Single-parent~needs your advice!
2006-06-26 03:38:45 · 10 answers · asked by misstree 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yes i got a piercing at 37 years old~if she waited til then it would be fine.
I tried to get her to remove it and she stated that she will leave 1st.
She stays with a friend of mine.
what do you think?
2006-06-26 03:48:29 · update #1
never thought she would get one after me threating to put her out. This is not what i wanted i am single and just needed some advice thanks to all who reply.
2006-06-26 03:50:09 · update #2
If you say something like that, you should mean it, but I wouldn't kick her out. She might end up like a runaway and get into a very dangerous situation if you kick her out. Take her to a doctor to have them removed, or tell her to remove them or you will do it yourself, or take away some big privileges that you pay for (like cell phone, tv, computer, etc.) until she removes them.
2006-06-26 03:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have push this into a dificult situation, because of course she is now facing your authority.
Remember this is the age where they are trying to find their identity, and that kind of things are the ones that made them feel unique. They are trying to show you, show the people around, and convince them self that they are independant, altougth they are not completely independant and that's what they hate the most.
At this point i would try to talk to her, i would let her know that i understand what she is going trougth, and that maybe you have both been doing it in the wrong way.
Tell her that she should stop that kind of things, not only because YOU WANT TO, but because it can be dangerous to her healt, let her know that you are worried about who does it, if they take care of the cares that needs to be done while doing the pierce.
Besides, you can ask her what kind of people she wants to be, maybe you can both see some photos of the people who uses tatoos and piercing, what kind of people do that. Show her some people who uses them in an elegant way, that are not so obvious, so she finds out that they can be used with moderation.
You have to get an agree with here, to start it over, and do it rigth, that she have to talk to you about that kind of decisions, that she should hear your arguments, and that you will hear her arguments, to get an agreement.
And remember that you expect from her responsability, in that as in all of the other aspects of her life.
2006-06-26 12:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Popocatepetl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no piercings at all? not even pierced ears? i'm not a mom yet, but for a teenager... that STINKS. and setting such a strict rule like that will just wanna make them wanan get a piercing more. my parents were strict about it and thats how i got my second piercing, i told my friend's mom to sign it. kids like the risk.
2006-06-26 12:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by americanqt93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it sounds to me like you're being to strict.
Many factors come into play here.
How old is she? You said teen.
What did she get pierced?
What is the big deal?????
As long as she has good grades and is a respectful teen...
I don't understand what the problem is????
When I was younger..still in elementary school
I asked my mom if I could get my ears pierced again.
She said No. Why I'm not sure.
I ended up piercing them in class.
I now have 10 piercings in one ear!
You need to pick your battles.
You don't want to push her away over piercings!!!
2006-06-26 10:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have any piercings? If so, you have no room to preach at her. You set the bad example. If not remove the piercings and the skin will grow back together in time. Then monitor her to make sure she hasn't decided to get pierced again.
2006-06-26 10:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by Leifr Eiríksson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest making her take the piercing out. You need to explain to her that she lives in your house, and needs to follow your rules. I think kicking her out at this point might be a little much. But do make her take her piercing out.
2006-06-26 10:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Heather R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd just make her remove the rings. Kicking her out probably isn't the best choice but if she's that unruly do what you have to.
2006-06-26 10:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by catmoosebear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you never said her age if she is an adult over 18 you shouldnt tell her no but if she is under 18 she should respect you and wait until she is 18
2006-07-03 08:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by jerry k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea. just dont push her too hard as she might become worse. pretend that nothing happened. dont mind her. dont talk to her as if she doesnt exist. if she begins to ask you why, tell her nothing. if she asks u if ur mad at her, tell her no. and keep ignoring her. hopefully, reverse psychology might still work.she'll have them removed in no time.have a nice day
2006-06-26 10:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them out and ground her for insubordination. She is testing your limits.
2006-06-26 10:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by DaddyBoy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋