MY WIFE HAD A AFFAIR WITH ANOTHER MAN IN JANUARY 06, I CAUGHT HER GETTING INTO HIS CAR WITH HIM & CALLED HER IMMED. TO COME HOME WHICH SHE DID. SHE THEN TOLD ME SHE WOULD STOP TALKING TO & SEEING THIS OTHER MAN. I RECENTLY FOUND OUT SHE HAS BEEN STILL TALKING TO THIS OTHER MAN, SHE ADDMITTED TO TALKING TO HIM ON 5 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS & PROMISED TO BREAK IT OFF WITH HIM. WELL IT HAPPENED AGAIN & NOW I WANT TO KNOW IF I SHALL CONTINUE OUR MARRIAGE OR LEAVE.?
2006-06-26 03:23:34 · 20 answers · asked by BFLY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are the only person that can answer that question . however i have to tell you that studies show that the best predictor for future actions is past behavior. If you really think that you did everything your power to understand why she is doing this and got no reasonable answer...then you maybe should consider separating or even divorce.
If she does not respect you and if you do not trust her chances are you will not have a happy marriage after this.
2006-06-26 03:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by ilfecoach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How badly do you want to stay married to this woman? She isn't taking you seriously right now, so at a minimum you need to see a counselor immediately. When she says she wants to stay with you, don't take her at her word that she's stopped seeing this guy. Even if she has (which she might when she realizes you're really serious about this), you have no reason to trust her. You need a counselor to get to the bottom of why she cheated on you and then continued to lie to your face about this guy. In her defense, she was honest with you about continuing to see him, and did come home when you called her. That may or may not be enough to salvage some trust in her long term, but there are some serious issues that need addressing in your relationship before you can re-commit your life to this woman.
Good luck!
2006-06-26 11:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey guy, You had best hang it up..
You only caught her with one.. There are more than likely about 5 morethat you did not catch her on.
She might just be using this guy so you will not look any father.
Get out while the getting is good.. Before you catch something that you can not get rid of.. ie VD ect.
GET OUT.
2006-06-26 10:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you already know what you want to do, you just want someone else to confirm it for you. It's not fair to ask that question so that you can have someone else to blame if it turns out to be something you don't want to do. I think you should go with your gut feeling. When we ask questions we already know the answer, do what you feel is best for you. I will say this though, if you can't trust her then you don't need her. It's obvious there are some problems you all need to address. What you have to decide is, is it worth it to stick it out? Is it worth it to you to deal with the drama do you want to stay married? It's okay if you don't want to stay married, but you have to make a decision and stick with it. Don't let someone else make it for you. DO WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT FOR YOU!
2006-06-26 10:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. She has a problem keeping promises and talking to him probably isn't what all she's doing with him.
2006-06-26 10:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't stopped...sorry to inform you but she probably won't. Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Most likely, if its this hard to put an end to their relationship, there may be feelings there. If I were you I would step back.
2006-06-26 10:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by Neka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell her she needs to stop it makes it seem like she's having a affair you need to pack up what dignity you have left and say i'm leaving and then she will stop!
2006-06-26 10:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by candygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have ask her to stop 5 times and she still keeps talking to him, do you really think she is going to stop,, i hate to say it but its time for you to move on and out
2006-06-26 11:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her. She is pure crap and is only hurting you. Distrust, insecurities, etc...those arethings that can be fixed. Someone who degrades you deserves what is coming to her.
2006-06-26 10:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by SweetTina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you must love her...but you don't deserve to be treated like this...Please don't stay - she has continued to devalue your marriage and your vows...you deserve to be happy.
2006-06-26 10:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋