I am a mother of 4. I work full time and go to college full time. My mother baby sits for me when the kids get out of school and full time during the summer months. After a hard days work I head to my mom's house to pick up my children. Let me tell you about my mom's house. It is dirty when I drop the kids off and even dirtier when i pick the kids up. My mom expects me to clean her house from top to bottom when I pick up the kids. I would not mind but when you look at the mess it is literally 3 weeks worth!
My 15 year old little sister also lives with my mom. My mom "never" makes her clean, not even her own room. When I lived with her I had to do "everything". I tell my mom that the kids are old enough to clean behind themselves, they are 11,9,8 and 6. She still wants me to do "everything". I told her the when granny took care of me and my brother she never let us cut up in her house like that and granny cleaned "everyday". Who's right?
2006-06-26 03:20:42 · 3 answers · asked by Oracle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No she gets paid and additionally, why should she expect from me something she never did herself? Granny took care of me and my bro for years because my mom needed her help and could not afford a sitter. Granny NEVER asked for a dime. She did it because she loved us and she loved my mom. She was trying to "help" not make a profit.
2006-06-26 03:35:03 · update #1
It's understandable that your mom feels that way...whatever was wrong between her and her mother when it came to cleaning? There was probably conflict then and that's what makes her rebellious to cleaning. I agree with the first answerer too. If she's doing it for free, then I would seriously not worry about it. The kids are there only to hang out, not to live there. I know they may be there a lot, but if it bugs them, then they can ask to do stuff for your mother, but if it only bugs you, then I have to say that you'll just have to ignore it. Dropping hints to get a maid, or just doing it yourself out of anger won't do anything. If you ignore it, and the kids aren't bothered by it, then don't worry about it.
2006-06-26 03:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you compensate your mom for her babysitting services or do you expect her to do it for free? If you're not paying her, then I'd imagine you're getting a pretty good deal, so why shouldn't she expect a favor in return? Do you know how much good quality child care costs these days? Have you ever offered to clean her house or to cook dinner for her or run some errands, or do you just take it for granted that she should take care of your kids for you?
2006-06-26 03:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by oaksterdamhippiechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a house cleaner for Mom's house, be grateful she cares for your children and quit complaining.
2006-06-26 03:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by lpaganus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋