You loved some one so much that after you break apart, the sheer mention of the person's name sends your heart pounding through your chest. You loved the person so much, that you were afraid you'd only hurt more if you ever met again. You loved this person so much, that on breaking apart for reasons that were uncontrollable, you fall into a long period of depression with only loneliness all around. And after a few years, this person approches you to be friends again. How would you handle this?
2006-06-26 03:18:36 · 13 answers · asked by byj 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Both parties need to be interested in the same thing otherwise it wouldn work. If one gives more then the other then things go a bit weird.
2006-06-26 03:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Purple.Space.Cadette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you could be friends so long as both of you have totally let go and have moved on and found someone else to love. If one of you is single and the other has someone it could be very hard. It is hard to see the person you love with someone else. For me it would just be easier to not be friends in that case. Although I have remarried and my ex husband has remarried and I am extremely happy now and still can't be friends with my ex. Their is just too much hurt there.
2006-06-26 10:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you feel. Would you be comfortable with being just friends? Would it be better if you were better off without this person? . You have to ask yourself if you would rather be friends with this person that totally live without them at all in your life . Think about the pros and cons. Think about how you feel and what would be best for YOU. Only you can make that choice. Some are able to stay good friends and others cannot.
2006-06-26 10:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since friendship is an essential part of love, I'd say go for it! Unless you are going to lay your heart on the line again by doing so. It's obvious to me that you still have deep feelings for this person. Just remember that you never know what the future may bring.
Best Wishes :)
2006-06-26 10:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by bettywitdabigbooty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offcourse it is possible, but it requires a deap and profound desire for self-control.
Love is a beautiful thing, and the same love that had brought u together is the same love that you will share as friends (only on a more limited level).
I would say pray that the source of all love, God Himself, may give you the wisdom and emotional balance to move on after your period of greavance, and see what His will for the both of you is.
2006-06-26 10:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by copticphoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person approaches you to be friends, you need to explain to them what you have explained here. Be absolutely and totally honest. Tell them that to see them, to be near them, causes you pain, because your love is unrequitted. Tell them that you need to first find the strength within yourself to move on from them, to find in yourself what you need to sustain yourself "without" someone in your life, and then, and only then, can you consider a friendship. Acceptance of what is not meant to be. You need to accept that the relationship you desire cannot be, or is not meant to be, because your life has a different plan in mind for you. Afterwards, try to find the qualities you love in the person, and love that person for those qualities on a friendship level. It is ok to love someone as a friend, but being intimate is a mutual decision and this person doesn't want to go to that level of the love you share. So respect their decision which will allow you to replace your desires with friendship.
2006-06-26 10:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends. If you have so much love for this person or had so much love, what is the problem with having a relationship now as friends? To truly love, you have to first be friends. Just have to set some boundaries that you do not cross.
2006-06-26 10:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by ramall1to 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's incredibly difficult at first but if you both put in the same amount of effort at being friends, it can happen.
I've tried it and in my case it did not work out. There are times when a friendship can be more trying than a relationship. I wish you luck though.
2006-06-26 10:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lily Iris 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't truly be friends with someone you've had a chance to hold kiss and was there for their every need sorry but it's the truth because what comes with the territory is seeing that person being held in another arms and that really hurts
2006-06-26 10:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by bestjlow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that my ex and I are still friends but it's very difficult for me because I still love him and probably always will. You can't help who you love, only what you do about it. In my case I prefer to remain friends because it's easier on our children and on each other that way.
2006-06-26 10:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋