A friend(guy) of mine has this habit. He becomes friend wit a girl....... make her feel that he loves her...... and when finally she starts lovin him....... he says that he never thought like that. I'm really puzzled wit his activity!!!!!!! Wats the benefit for him in doing so.......? Any idea???
2006-06-26 02:51:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
All 24hrs he talks with her...... that too he talks as though he s very much caring n loving..... Moreover he s possessive with that girl..... He doesn't want her to talk wit any other guy. After all this wat will a girl think....
2006-06-26 03:15:26 · update #1
Well lady, it's a guy thing. We all want to control everything in this life. And when you manage to control anything then it's not interesting anymore. That is when you talk about, man/women relations. It is different with money or something like that, of course. You don't wanna give it up. But with girls, it's not interesting. You always want to win others heart. So, it would be better for girls to be cool, to love someone as much as it wouldn't hurt them if they break up. I acted like your friend, when i was little bit younger, but now I realize that I was pig towards girls. So I want to apologize them, even in this way. I don't know how old are you, but I think that your friend may be or may not be teenager, he is still immature. Be aware of this things, whatever guys say or do, be smart and have this in mind:"Guys want to concur, to be your first love, all that goes with sex, and when he has you, your love harmony is gone." Not all men are like this, but great number are.
PC:thanks for being patient and read this answer
2006-06-26 03:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Campion 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi, Lucy, did he state to you that this is in fact what he is doing?
Men and women relate differently, so it's easy to get mixed signals.
Yes, like you said, he could simply be leading her on. Maybe he's scared of actually committing to someone and giving up the chance to date others. Maybe he's scared of being open about himself. Maybe he doesn't want someone always taking care of him or feels smothered by romance.
Still, what attention a girl sees as "really liking her" could actually mean to the guy that he just enjoys doing stuff with her but nothing more than that. It happens all the time. Girls read a lot into the relationship, and then get hurt dreadfully later on when they realize the boy doesn't feel the way they thought he did.
Girls can "read" other girls well, because girls follow the same "rules" of relationship. But boys come at relationships with different "rules," and you can't interpret their actions as if they were girls.
I would probably just ask him, if I wanted to know what he was feeling. (He might lie, but you have no other way to learn anything.)
And until you figure it out (just in case), I would be careful about getting involved with him myself.
2006-06-26 10:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say " he become friend wit a girl" or "make her feel like he loves her" what do you mean? Is he nice, friendly, respectful, and listens to her? Does he say "I love you" to her?
Depending on what he says and does, different motives can be interpreted. However, since you don't mention any pursuit of intimacy, it may all be innocuous. Anyway, it is impossible to make a psychological judgment and/or interpret someone's motives with such sparse info as you have provided.
2006-06-26 10:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jimmy J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I've found myself doing this behavior. Bear in mind I'm happily married but it's still fun to flirt and talk to beautiful and interesting women. Although I would NEVER cross the line, and I REALLY mean that, it sure is fun flirting now and then. I have found myself flirting with co-workers to the point they thought I was about to leave my wife for them, something that would never happen, and I got a lot of fun out of it. I'm not ******* with them mind you, but just having close, verbal communication is tantalizing somehow...
2006-06-26 10:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by Big O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone like this too. He even goes as far as making them think marriage is a possibility at least 4 times. But I know he is really gay but just doesn't want to admit it. He comes from a very religious background and will never admit it.
2006-06-26 09:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by chrome_rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting he what he wants use the girl for his benefit and may be for sex and amy be for money a woman can be used for a lot reasons may be trying to impress other boys or having a new girl every time makes him feel good every time he makes them feel good a man can have many reasons for having a new girl
2006-06-26 09:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by khanaliimran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could also be scared of commitment. Once it gets too serious he gets scared and moves on to someone new. Either way, the guy has a problem.
2006-06-26 09:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by Butkusman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is using "love" as a way to get sex. That's the cheapest way for a guy to get some. He's a sad man!
2006-06-26 09:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by hardcoco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are addicted to the conquest and not really looking for a date.
Oh I'm sorry "Your friend" is after the conquest.
Then once he has won the game is over.
Will the next contender please come to the arena.
2006-06-26 10:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how far he goes, but he is doing it to make himself feel better and/or get the girls for sex/lovin' in return.
He's a typical jerk.
2006-06-26 09:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by Joey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋