i have a friend who lied about what she went to school for. now her husband may find out the truth. what should she do.
2006-06-26 02:38:54 · 27 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-06-26 02:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by bailey 2 · 4⤊ 11⤋
It really depends on what your friends husband does for a living. If he has dreams of political accolades, then her lie could be damaging. However if he is mid-level management, there shouldn't be that much of a concern.
But there is that question that could spark in his mind of "what else is there?" and he would be absolutely correct in his thinking.
I think as well the best way to incorporate this would be to find a marriage counselor - set up an appointment - do the intakes, and let the truths come out in there. For what ever reason the wife has a self-worth issue going on that needs attention.
She should realize that 11 years ago she "measured" up to what he desired when he asked her to marry him.
2006-06-26 10:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy_Man_in_Minneapolis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister died recently with a similar burden. Her's was that she financially got them into a financial debt. The anxiety was over-powering her. She finally came clean...they fought for a few days. Then, that storm blew over as they always will. Unfortunately she didn't live much more than 1 week after her confession. All that time worrying. She could have been enjoying life. Confess, bite the bullet. It dosn't sound like a lie worth aganizing over.
2006-06-26 09:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by momprotect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound too severe of an issue. Best to go together to counseling and disclose the information in the presence of a professional. If there is a problem, it can be addressed without damaging the entire relationship.
2006-06-26 09:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by StereoZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth. If it is a strong, healthy marriage things will be ok. Explain the reason for the lie, there must have been one that made sense at the time.
2006-06-26 09:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by loveseat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know she shouldn't have lied to begin with, but now she should tell him the truth, if it matters that much to her. She needs to explain why she lied and hope that he can understand. Good luck to her.
2006-06-26 10:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies are a visious circle. They always find their to come back and haunt you. Fess up. The truth is always the best
2006-06-26 09:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by boredgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say, "honey, i feel really stupid. 11 years ago i fibbed about my major in school, and somehow it just got away, and it's been eating at me. i want you to know that i went for XXX not YYY. can you forgive me for such a silly thing? i've felt bad all these years for not being straight up about it. I was ashamed/embarrassed/whatever at the real major and thought YYY sounded better."
good luck. it's always better to fess up in a situation like this.
2006-06-26 09:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth wether you loose him or not.By being honest with others and telling the truth is what people need to do.And plus you will always feel better about yourself.
2006-06-26 09:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by mandingofirst 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to come clean than have her husband find out through another source.
2006-06-26 09:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so ur (or ur friend's)marrige has been a lie for 11 yrs. ur spouse should know the truth. better u tell him now then have him find out from someone else. it will hurt himm more if he does find out from some1 else
2006-06-26 09:42:34 · answer #11 · answered by predictable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋