Last year and half i met a man and i fall in love with him. In that period i was already in a relation, which didn t work, but i told him that im alone. He liked me very much and he insisted to meet eachother but most of the time i was busy part of my bf part of my job and refuse him several times. Then he gave up. After 2 months i called him and he told me that he met someone and he likes her as much as me, but he still wanted to meet me.So we ve met and i make love with him then i keep the relation in this way hoping that he will stay with me .At one time our relation started to get better but suddenly while talkin on messenger he told me that he has to meet her. I was upset and we didnt speak for three weeks.Then he called me lots of time and i din t answer. Last saturday we talk and he told me he is not with her anymore, but since saturday he didnt give me any sign , i mean we didnt speak since then. I would like someone to tell me what is hidding under his behaviour?
2006-06-26 02:33:54 · 19 answers · asked by sad girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im not with my bf for an yea.I told him when i knew i love this man and we separeted.Also every time i told this man i want something else he replied that when he wanted i didnt..He always brings the past in to the open. I met him in octomber 2004.So there are 2 years since we go on like this. Although he told me i want more and he can t commit. He is not from my country, but he works in my country 2 weeks per months.
2006-06-26 03:04:29 · update #1
and also at the moment i ve met him...my relation with the ex wasn t good....for almost a year. My ex made many mistakes in the past i tried to separate from him put he always beg for my compasion.And i stayed with him cause i felt pity for him.
2006-06-26 03:11:13 · update #2
He isn't hiding. He has told you what he was up to all along.
You are trying to keep him with sex. You have a low self esteem.
2006-06-26 02:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You obviously feel for this man and want to make him yours. However he has not been treating you in a respectful manner and I think you need to recognise this is not a good situation for you to be in. He has been honest with you, and you have taught him through your actions that he can treat you in this way. I also think you have low self esteme. I think you need to figure out why you feel this way and why you think having him in your life will make it better. I would abvise you to end it with this person, and spend some time on your own, finding out who you are and where you are and developing your self esteme. Sometimes making a decision such as this can be very painful and leave you feeling worse. However i believe this is the best thing for you to do and should be the best option in the long run. I know that is probably not what you wanted to hear but i believe its true.
2006-06-26 02:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by IwishicoulddeleteYahooAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is HE hiding ? What have YOU been hiding ? You meet some guy, WHILE you are still in a relationship, and you "fall in love" with him. You don't break off your relationship; you don't tell the new guy about the relationship but in fact, you tell your "new" guy that you are flying solo. Despite being "in love" you can manage to meet. (Ok, ok - so you "fell in love" over the Internet? Omigawd, you have GOT to be kidding......or delusional.) You can't manage to meet for 2 months but when you do, you fall into bed with him ??? Eek. What ? You do so because you think it will make him stay in a relationship with you ? (Ah, I see - delusional.) You get angry because he found somebody else... (which is nothing like when you were in a relationship but didn't tell him, right ?) And so you don't speak (you mean IM...) with him for 3 weeks. Is that about it ?
And now you wonder what he is hiding ? Lord, Honey - nothing. He is hiding nothing. He simply wants what you have indicated you are going to give: sex.
Have a little respect for yourself - and take a lesson from this. Relationships are built over time - with effort and dedication - not with typing skills and bedrooms.
2006-06-26 02:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't really know. You really can't tell with 100% certainty in these situations. The best answer i think would be that you should always follow your heart. I don't think that he is being sincere to you. I mean: he called you after 3 weeks after it didn't work with her and now he wants to get with you. Where was he 3 weeks ago. Sorry, but I would show him/her (whatever) the door. Hope it works out 4 U!
2006-06-26 02:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what's hidden in his behavior. You can't make up your mind about what you want with him. Until you start showing him that your serious for a good amount of time then he will be a different person towards you. A man is not going to sit around and wait for you to make up your mind about whether you want this or that. If you can't make up your mind then I don't think it's fair to keep taking him through this rollor coaster ride. Your wasting a lot of time doing this. Make a desicion and stick by it.
2006-06-26 02:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you i would phone him and let him know exactly how you feel.
He might have told you that he liked the other girl as much as you because he wanted to give you a taste of your own medicine. It cant have been nice for him to see you with your ex.
Just go for it youve let him go once, keep hold of him this time if it doesnt work at least youve tried it!
Go for it!
2006-06-26 03:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by ghm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He liked you and wanted you for his girlfriend but the time was not right for you.
When the time was right for you it was not for him.
You both had sex even tho he had a girlfriend and that ruined you in his eyes because you knew he was cheating but did it anyway.
He probably thinks you let him cheat on his girlfriend with you so you would cheat on him
Now he just wants sex with you when he wants it but he doesn't want you as his proper girlfriend because he doesn't respect/think of you in that way anymore
I think he is keeping you just in case nothing else comes up but I wouldn't waste any more of my time on him. Move on this relationship will never be any more than a friendly tumble under the sheets
2006-06-26 02:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First before you do anything choose the guy that you love the most and that you think you could have a great relationship for a long time. Take it from there.
2006-06-26 02:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by STUPID12301 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not interested in a proper relationship with you. He is having his cake and eating it as the saying goes. As long as you continue to give him all the sex he wants he will continue to use you. Also if i was you i would think about how your relationship is going with your boyfriend right now because you are not being fair to him either. Set him free and let him find someone who is going to care about him.
2006-06-26 02:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO you type like a 3 year old you sure your old enough to be on here sweetheart?As it seems to me your wasting the poor guy's time you are with your boyfriend but want someone else to stay and waste his precious time waiting for you when there is someone else he can go to?Man you sure are stuck up
2006-06-26 02:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Førsâkëñ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this guy. It sounds like he is playing you for a fool. Figure out why you are cheating on your bf . If there is something wrong with relationship. If he is not willling to work on it then dump him and find another.
2006-06-26 02:51:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋