we have been together for 2 years now he says he does love her but because they have a son and a past together. Yeah let me get caught talking to another guy and wow do I have to hear it
2006-06-26 02:23:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Doesn't sound very healthy to me.
2006-06-26 02:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by scruffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that he has a good relatioship with the mother of his child. However, personally i would be worried if he said he loved her or was in love with her though. Especialy if hes only just started saying this recently.
I had a v. similar situation to yours and he ended going back to 'her', saying that whilst he loved me, she was the mother of his child and he loved them and had to do the right thing.
Although he loved his kid v. much, personally i think he used this as an excuse to an easy way out, cos basicaly he loved her and not me.
I know its a cliche, but follow ur gut instinct
2006-06-26 02:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by ang j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not over his ex and he says he loves you then he's talking out of both sides of his mouth. Been there, done that. They have to communicate for the childs sake and on good terms the better. Tell him you respect him for being able to remain friends with her for the boys sake, but he's going to have to forget about their past and start living in the present and for the future with you. PERIOD!!!
2006-06-26 02:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it sounds as if the separation my not have been amicable. He may have a trust issue, and he may still be hurt from the loss of his relationship and opportunities with his son. He could benefit from counseling, as sometimes the best way to move on is to release what you hold in from the past.
2006-06-26 02:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by StereoZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have a child together then they will always have some kind of connection. And that child will need to have some relationship with his father. It is up to you whether you let that get in the way.
2006-06-26 02:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by PermDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy isn't one you want to waste any more time with. He obviously looks at your relationship from one point of view, HIS. There are way too many people in this world to get stuck with a manipulative, jealous, person. Don't look at your two years as time lost, but as time learning. Mr. right is out there. Don't limit yourself!
2006-06-26 02:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by Joe E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is awful. I would not take it. If you have been with him for two years and he is just now telling you he still loves his x, kids or no kids, I would kick him to the curb. Unless of course he just has love for her because, she had his son.
2006-06-26 02:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by themisslita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm telling you girl that guy is nothing... i had that experience too my exboyfriend has a daugther with his exgirlfriend and now he got 2 different girls pregnant... when we are still together we always fight about the same thing... JEALOUSY.... those guys shouldn't be taken any attention though eventhough it hurts you should let go... in my experience i cried the hell out of me because of that guy but i should say i'm feeling better now... go girl!!!
2006-06-26 02:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shame...well most guys do that, find another girl to get over the last one, but just make sure he doesn't get that close to his ex<3<3
2006-06-26 02:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by applepie_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to do that, because he have a son to her that's why they need to communcate for their son, support him & he'll love you more. don't get jealous that will eat your self-confidence & trust to him.
2006-06-26 03:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by babypards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋