I really want to get married and have a baby. Once we sell our house, this will be possible. I just wish it were sooner than later. I have two grandparents that are in really bad shape and I just wish that I could give them a great -grandchild. My Grandfather doesn't have any great - grandchildren and I would like to make this possible. Don't get me wrong, I want to have children , the sooner the better, and I know the responsibilities of children. I would just like to know if anyone else has felt this way and what you thought about it.
Thanks for your answers in advance!!
2006-06-26 02:10:08 · 12 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
being close to ur grandparents is beautiful and giving them a g. grandchild i think is a natural feeling just make sure that ur ready and always know that it is something that u can share with them and enjoy just make sure that u want this for ur self more than for them b/c in the long run the baby is yours. u soun d like ur ready so go for it GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-26 02:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by glenda d 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Kind of...I never really thought of it before the baby. However, my daughter was born in January and three of my grandparents are deceased. They never got to see the baby. 2 knew I was pregnant. It's hard sometimes - I wish they could see her and hold her. She is so amazing and I know they would just LOVE her to pieces. However, I know that it would not have been good for me to have the baby any earlier. My husband and I had to be ready emotionally and financially for a baby. Rushing it for them to see her would have been a mistake, as it isnt about them, but about her! She is my top priority, not them. And so I had to do what was best for my child, which was to wait until we were ready to be the best parents we could be for her. Also, I like to think that maybe they can see her from the other side. Not sure if this is true or not, but the hope gives me comfort. Hope this helps~
2006-06-26 09:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by dixiechic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how important it is to grandparents to have grandchildren and i love my grandchildren more than anything in this world.. but my youngest son and his wife were not ready to have children and it has been really hard on all of us.. they are doing better a little right now.. but parents need to be able to except the responsibility of their own children.. work and be able to afford the things the children need...it has been hard on me cause i babysit these children a lot and i do not have the money to supply all they need.. they do not seem to have their priorities straight when they are young.. now my son is 24 and has 3 children and we have to help them a lot.. they were in and out of trouble and the kids have been moved from home to home but we try and do the best we can.. i try to get them to listen to me but when they do not live in your home all the time i find it hard to whip them or anything like that...my grandson needs to start being potty trained and i would do this if i had the stuff i needed and they left him here long enough to accomplish this...so it is really better to wait until you are financially secure to have children and are really up for the job.. raising children these days is a job on its own...
2006-06-26 09:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my best girlfriends lost her grandparents, one right after the other and her biggest regret was that she had put off having a baby. As she mourned them she just couldn't get over feeling that she should have had a baby, she wanted so much to give them that and for some reason put it off. She was very unhappy and hard on herself. She second guessed every decision she made and became angry that she hadn't just followed her heart. (like you, she always wanted children and was well aware what it involved) one thing in her life led to another and she put it off...It was heart-breaking to watch her struggle with this.
So, I support you and this idea :)
2006-06-26 09:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice 2 think that way but I would not do it until u was ready! Children are a handful & takes a lot from u......just wait till ur married......dont ever rush these things!
2006-06-26 09:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by fly_away_amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you to do.No one is promised tommorrow,if both Grandparents pass on before the baby comes then you will be depressed.So have a baby because that is what you want to do.
2006-06-26 09:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really sweet your a great daughter but don't do it for them do it for yourself and hubby babies are alot of work, not just a toy to parade around show your grandparents you love them in a different way spend time with them
2006-06-26 09:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by ky_45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason to ever have a child is because you are ready, willing and able to care for it for a very long time
2006-06-26 09:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by bigjimmyguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a baby for yourself.. the grandparents are just a bonus...if your not ready then let it be
2006-06-26 09:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin bro had he gave his child to his grandparents
2006-06-26 09:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋