Help needed people. Im a gay woman. My best friend is a guy. We have been best friends for 27 years. He has a long term partner & they have one child. Four years ago.. his gf told me she felt a connection with me. We have tried to ignore it since (very hard cos shes gorgeous in every possible way) Recently.. things have been getting hot again. The glances.. the little touches.. the electricity is unreal. Its very hard to resist but I feel loyalty to my best friend too. Its a crazy situation. Any advice greatly appreciated. Thanks !
2006-06-26 01:53:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, have her tell him how she feels about you. Then if he's ok with it.. you can try it out with her. If he's not, it's going to be tough, but it really is HIS problem to deal with if he's not really seeing her.
2006-06-26 01:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by knifelvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I think you and this woman are both setting yourselves up for a lot of hurt. You should keep the loyalty to your friend if you have known him for so long. If your truly his best friend you wouldn't even be flirting with this woman that he's with and he loves. She is not to be trusted either if she's doing all of this flirting with his best friend which is you. You should be feeling bad for your best friend when he loves this woman and she's telling his best friend she has a connection with her. You guys have known each other a very, very long time, and I wouldn't let a woman break that bond. Best friends don't come around easy these days, it's like trying to find the right partner in life. Your friend would never trust you again if he found out what is going on or if things went further. There are plenty of beautiful women out here for you if that's what you like. I hope things work out for you!!!
Danielle
2006-06-26 02:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a few deep breathes, get your head together....attraction is a powerful thing but you must allow it it pass. This is your best friend's partner, the mother of his child. For you to act on these 'feelings' would be absolute betrayal. She should know better too.
Often we meet people we feel connected to but that doesn't mean we have to act on it...especially if one or the other isn't available.
This is not worth risking your friendship of 27 years. Your friendship with him is the most important connection to pay attention to.
2006-06-26 02:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by Venusp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just cant go with this girl because of your 27 year friendship...Your friend is important to you right? Find another hot looking girl as im sure theres many others out there not attatched to anyone you may know...besides if you did you will only have to live with the guilt...
2006-06-26 02:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by speedster007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't envy the position your in that's for sure!
No one can tell you they know exactly what your thinking, or feeling just make sure that whatever you do that in the worst case scenario you are prepared to not see your best friend as much as you previously had. I have felt comparable to this before, but my friendship wasn't worth a "fling" for me. Good Luck :-)
2006-06-26 01:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should turn straight and run off with your best friend instead !! He heee... or perhaps you should all have a relationship together ? No seriously.. would you really be able to hurt your best friend in that way ?
2006-06-26 01:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by lovelygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away think very hard about it are u willing to act on this and lose ur best friend after 27 years- true friends are hard to come across i wouldnt want to lose him if i were u
2006-06-26 02:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by browneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, out of respect for my friend of 27 years, i would speak to his girl, and find out what all this sudden lesbianism is all about. Does your friend know he is married to a genuine lesbian/bisexual? Or is she just curious? If its just curiosity on her part, then you need to tell her to cut it out. Its unfair to your friend to be kept in the dark. Either way, you shouldnt even be thinking about hitting it for Christs sake!
2006-06-26 02:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be surprised if you tell him that you fancy his wife. most men fantasize about 2 girls together. Why not ask him what he would think to seeing you with her? You could always make it into a joke if he reacts negativley. "What would you do if i kissed your wife?" Bad reaction, just laugh and tell him that you would never want that, "only pulling your plonker." I allowed my wife to go with another 6 girls, I never wanted to watch, but iliked her telling me about it. "Oh, it was so soft, so gentle and i came so beautifully." Why would any man not let his wife feel that pleasure?"
2006-06-26 02:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep away from her, find your own partner. This will only lead to heartbreak for all adults concerned and the child.
2006-06-26 01:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be together then she has to end her relationship with him first then she will be a free agent otherwise it will get messy and it will only end in tears for one of you surely if he is your best mate you would'nt even contemplate hurting him leave well alone at least until they are'nt together anymore. good luck anyway !
2006-06-26 02:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by hayleyxxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋