should I stay or leave?

Question

my husband emotionally abuses me everyday. we have 3 children
my husband wants to know when i'm on the phone;where i'm going; what i'm doing everyday. i can only go out w/my best friend once a month for approximately 2-hours. he doesn't allow me to go online (I do it at work); he doesn't allow me to go out w/co-workers; he doesn's allow me any money (cuz he says he makes more $$ than me; even though i work too); i had to ask him to get my hair cut and he limited me to only get 4-inches cut off. i don't ever have any $$ on me..i have to ask if we can "afford it" he says no; and later he gets himself something ... I need help in my decision ..please help!?!?!

Answer 1

leaveeeeeeee

Answer 2

The first thing you need to do is get a rope and a frying pan full of scalding hot grease.I don't think I have to explain what to do with either.But just for the fun of it,I will help you out.When he gets home from work,have his dinner cooked.Whatever you cook,make sure you cook up some fried chicken.That way you will already have your grease and frying pan hot.Slip a couple of sleeping pills in whatever he is drinking.After he has eaten,give him a hot bath and put his *** to bed.While the old fool is snoozing,tie his *** to the bed,reheat the grease,then sit and wait for him to wake up.When he does,tell him since he doesn't want you to waste anything,you had to decide what to do about the grease you burned and the answer was clear,the rope wa old and so was his days of bossing you around.Slowly walk to the kitchen,get the grease,bring it back pour itdown his underwear.Oh lets not forget about the dirty frying pan.While he is screaming and going in shock,slap him in the face with it and knock him unconscious.Continue this for 30 minutes to an hour or until well done.(it crumbles when you poke it). Or until you feel better.Which ever comes first.

But seriously,you need to leave now because soon verbal abuse won't be enough for him and physical abuse is right around the damn corner.

Answer 3

Your husband sounds like my wife except your husband works. i would find a way to get out of the relationship by any means neccessary. If I knew you on a personal level, I could help u better than this right now. No woman should ever go through what u are going thru. Get away fast. Things will only get worst like physical abuse. Don't want to scare u but my aunt and uncle were the same way and she died of a stress related heart attack at the age of 40. So do what u need to do to protect yourself and get away soon.

Answer 4

I think that you should try and stand up for yourself in this situation before you try and leave him. You need to find the courage to tell him how you feel, and that your not going to be taking the abuse anymore. If you don't fight him back with this and stand up and give him an ultimatum then this will get a lot worse. Don't be scared, he puts this fear in you now, but don't give in to it. Call his bluff and really make it seem as though your leaving him. He will either see that he has a problem and is willing to fix it or he will be the same way. He doesn't expect you to do the unthinkable, but call his bluff. You deserve a life of happiness go out and get it because you deserve it.

Answer 5

Wow, I feel so sorry for you. Your husband has a control issue, it will never go away and it sure as hell aint gonna get any easier. Ask him if he will go to counseling and if not just let him know that you cannot live like that anymore and you need to pack up you and the kids and leave, or better yet kick him out, you need the house for those kids. It will only get worse if you do not get out now.

Answer 6

Darling you should ask him to leave and if he says no. then simply state that once you find a place you will be moving out. But let him know that as a mother of 3 you will by far make more than him once he pays your child support. he will soon see you mean business. No ONE should have to go thru that. and as a mom to another mom you have enough on your plate taking care of the children you don't need to take care of a fourth child.....him!!!! He needs to be more secure. and get a life and stop trying to destroy yours.

Answer 7

Is your self-esteem so low that you really have to ask this question? Imagine if your best friend were saying to you all the things you just typed. Would you tell her to stay? Don't you feel you deserve to be treated better than this? Don't your children deserve a chance to grow up to know your husband's behavior is not normal, & that this isn't the type of relationship they should look for in life? If you have any daughters, would you want them marrying men who treated them this way because Daddy treated Mommy that way, & that's all they know? Or how about if you have sons who grow up to treat their wives exactly as your husband treats you, because they believe that's how a man whould treat his wife. If you won't leave for you, you should do it for your children, so they don't grow up with such warped views of life.

Answer 8

sounds to me that he is a control freak which will eventually turn into abuse. if he is that controlling, i think that he could use some counseling real quick.

and some for you too. nobody is so bad that they cant make decisions for themself.

i think that you should consider child support and get away from the control freak before you loose any self respect that you do have. if he is emotionally abusive, how long do you think that it will be before the kids do the same thing. kids learn what they live and thats not a good example for them at all.

Answer 9

HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH CONTROL. IT'S APPARENT HE DOES NOT TRUST YOU. (UNLESS YOU GIVEN HIM A REASON NOT TO?) ANYWAY IT'S NOT A GOOD SITUATION FOR YOUR CHILDREN HE'S ONLY TEACHING THEM TO BE THE SAME WAY OR THAT'S IT'S OKAY TO BE TREATED THIS WAY. AND IT'S NOT REGARDLESS OF PAST WRONGS. IT'S NOT LOVE HE'S SHOWING YOU ITS DICTATORSHIP AND NO WOMAN OR MAN SHOULD LIVE THIS WAY. YOU NEED TO MAKE A LIST OF THE PRO'S AND CONS AND WEIGH THE ISSUE. AND MY KIDS NEED A FATHER IS NOT ON THE PRO LIST.
YES! CHILDREN NEED A FATHER BUT NOT SOMEONE LIKE THAT. THINK ABOUT IT! IF THIS IS YOU WANTING OUT TO WHAT YOU WANT AND NOT BE A MOTHER THEN ITS YOU WITH THE PROBLEM AND YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND BE A MOTHER! I DON'T KNOW THE SITUATION BUT IF HE'S AS CONTROLLING AS YOU SAY THEN YOU NEED TO CONSULT A PROFESSIONAL FOR SOME HELP AND NOT RELY ON THE INTERNET FOR ANSWERS.

Answer 10

Sounds like things really stink for you. This man is very controlling and does not respect you at all. I can't tell you if you should stay or go that is up to you. But you need to do something to keep yourself from going crazy because of this nonsense.

Answer 11

I was in that situation but I got rid of him. I'm helping a friend of mine thru the same thing 1 difference is that her hubby is abusing prescription drugs. If I were you GET OUT OF IT ,your life is only going to get worse and you will be miserable for the rest of your life if you don't get out.