2006-06-26 01:51:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
yes . Because he should no how he became a father.
it's not easy
2006-06-26 01:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by preity 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of good sites. As a doula I recommend making a list of all the things that are important to you. Go on a tour of the L&D area of where you will be delivering and talk to the RN giving the tour. Some of the things that are on a lot of birth plans are really out-of-date, like no shaving, and some things the RN on duty will have no control over, like whether you want your husband to be your coach. So you can cross off the items that aren't necessary or that then nurse on duty won't need to know about. Then pick the top 3 things for you during labor and delivery, and the top 3 things for the baby in the postpartum period. Put them in a bulleted list. Say please and thank you and don't sound demanding. For example, a birth plan might read: Thank you for helping us as we welcome our baby into the world. Barring any complications, we would appreciate the following: o I would not like to be offered pain medication; I will ask if I want it. o I would like to decline an IV, and instead have a saline block. o I would like to be given freedom to move around the room in labor and to push with the natural urges. For our newborn, barring any complications, we have the following wishes: o Delay any newborn procedure until first breastfeeding. o Father to cut cord after it's finished pulsating o No circumcision.
2016-03-27 04:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've haven't had any children yet, but i definately think the father should be present during the birth. First of all its an experience for the both of you AND giving birth isn't easy, the father should be there to support and comfort mom as much as possible!!!!
2006-06-26 01:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by cmp8423 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessary but it is good for the mother and the baby if the father is there for support. Plus you don't want to miss out on an amazing experience of witnessing a brand new person to this planet!
2006-06-26 01:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so...you got the mother pregnant and she has to go through all the pain and discomfort of child birth. You should be right there by her side letting her know that you're there supporting her and actually care about the birth of your child. If you don't then you're not a very good father in my opinion.
2006-06-26 01:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of fathers are not there during child- birth but i personally think they should be... they are partly responsible for the child being born least they can do is be there for your support...i have had the experience of calling all over the place or having it done to even try to find my husband and i think that was bad and it did hurt me...my first husband actually went to his ex-wifes to brag about his having his first child and i do not know what happened with all that ... i did not find out until years later and the woman told me herself.. this was when i was filing for divorce too.. some men are good to their wives and some are just jerks...mine were abusive jerks.. hope you have better experiences
2006-06-26 01:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If the mother and father are a couple, yeah, it would be a good idea to stick around in the room. If they're not a couple, he might want to make himself invisible until the mom is no longer feeling like inflicting him with some pain. (Women in labor have been known to throw things with amazing accuracy considering that they're attempting to pass a human bowling ball out of themselves at the same time.)
2006-06-26 01:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bob S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not "necessary", but deeply needed for support. That's of course if the mother wants you there and you want to be there as well. The child will not remember, so it's really up to the both of you to make that decision. For me, it was helpful to have my husband there. Don't feel bad or ashamed if you can't handle being there, it's a personal choice...not the law!
2006-06-26 02:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by marisa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most moms would like him there but being 5-1/2 months pregnant myself I know that the doctors will have to be treating my husband for passing out before tending to me. He can't even go through shots let alone child birth.
Most dad will want to be there for the birth of their child. They overcome a lot when that day comes.
2006-06-26 01:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Because the mother needs to have the father's hand to break while in labor pain! Besides, you should be there to see what kind of pain your wife goes through to bring YOUR child into the world. You need to appreciate what she goes through for the fruit of your loins. You need to understand why we celebrate mother's day. What kind of father does not want to be present at the birth of his own child??
2006-06-26 01:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by zharantan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he needs to see the pain his wife goes through. After all, it is his fault. Ha, just kidding. It's more of a support issue. If you aren't there for the birth, she's going to think you won't be there for the baby or her. And it's not a good time to piss her off. If you love her at all, you'll be there. Congrats, btw.
2006-06-26 01:56:01 · answer #11 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋