when you have been married for a few years and you start feeling lonely and restless.
2006-06-26 01:50:35 · 12 answers · asked by Feathers-n-Lace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sleep with me! lol.
Seriously?
What's causing the feelings? These things don't usually appear out of nowhere overnight. I'm guessing you need a bit more communication with your other half and if he won't talk to you, then you do have a big problem. If that's the case, I feel for you - it sucks. Just remember that you're worth more than that!
2006-06-26 01:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by jocular_japes 3 · 9⤊ 3⤋
You develop an outside interest. Join a club, or take up a hobby, something that you do with other people that doesn't include him. Encourage him to do the same. My partner has his weekly poker game, not just playing cards but preparing to be the host and cleaning the next day. I have my weekly 'jam session' with fellow amature musicians, and need to spend time practicing.
The reason this works is because you have been married a few years. At first, simply being married and having your mate was your whole life. But this isn't enough to keep an adult happy forever. No marriage is interesting enough to be your whole life, so unless you have outside interests as well, you are going to feel lonely and restless.
You can also look into some new "you & him" activity, if you two are spending all your "down time" glued to the tube. Join a fitness club or bowling legue, buy roller blades, learn chess, refinish furniture. Your time together is as interesting as you make it.
Whatever you do, don't start thinking that what you need is "a new love interest". Adults grow beyond needing "a new toy" every half hour to keep them interested. Only boring people get bored; if you work at being an interesting person with a lot of interests, then you will never (ok, hardly ever) feel lonely and restless.
2006-06-26 09:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything else, tell your husband that you feel lonely. Give him a chance to fix what he can. Find time to spend together and DO things, not just sexually but date, like you used to do. It is tempting to just throw everything away and have an affair, but it would not be worth it in the end. You should try everything you possibly can to work it out with your partner. Then, if you can't get some satisfaction, leave. Whatever you do, DON'T cheat. You will feel terrible and you will hurt someone else. (who doesn't deserve to be hurt, even if he drives you nuts sometimes.) Also, don't rely on him to fill your emptiness. Volunteer somewhere. Make a new friend. Read a book. Do things that make you happy, apart from him. Then, the time that you spend together will bring you closer.
2006-06-26 09:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down in a quiet place and assess your marriage. What went wrong? Do I really want to be married to this person for the rest of my life? What can I do to change it? Would I be happier if we divorced? After you answer these questions, and honestly, you decide where to go from here! Good Luck!! Been there, and done that!!
2006-06-26 08:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better get that loneliness and restlessness under control or someone is going to start to wander away from their marriage vows...
2006-06-26 09:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some outing some weekly dating , movies and any where outside home minimum 2-4 hrs a day whole day kept on joking and have a thinkful , eager and foreplay sex.Having sex with changing.
2006-06-26 09:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think: your spouse may be feeling the same. So take all the advice already given.
2006-06-26 08:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by ramirojb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have more sex with your spouse. Talk to your spouse more. Make time to spend together. Go on dates. Go to church together and pray together. Make sure your spouse knows how you feel and work hard to spend time talking and enjoying life together.
2006-06-26 08:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for new ways to spice up your relationship. If all else fails, find a lover.
2006-06-26 09:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need more information here.. Sounds like you're not getting enough attention. Talk to your husband about it.
2006-06-26 08:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by knifelvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋