She had a three year old little girl and a man who loved her and family and friends. Why did she die? Please dont give me the crap about "it was her time" or whatever. I dont understand the reason for "whoever" (most of you know who I mean) to want to take the mother away from her 3 year old little girl. It seems so wrong.
2006-06-26 01:23:52 · 26 answers · asked by mrspjd05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know how you feel. I think that at times life is so unfair and a mother of 3 should never have to leave her children. You sometimes wonder how God or whoever can let that happen. The pain and suffering that you and her children and her husband are going to have to go through is not going to be easy but...you know what she lives on through those kids and they will need everyones love now and that is what can get you through this. Help your friend to know that you will be there for her man and those kids. That is all that you can do and pray.
2006-06-26 01:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by blondiebella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your friend. I am sure you are going through a terrible time. Why would you think there was a purpose to her passing away? The fact is it happened because someone was not following the rules of driving. That is why we have rules, to keep everyone safe. Unfortunately as humans we are always pressing our luck...going too fast for the road conditions, being distracted, etc. The only way there can be a "purpose" to this is for something positive to come about because of it. (Maybe you and her friends will be more careful drivers) I will assume she was not an organ donor.. but you and other friends could sign up so in the future other people would be given a chance at living. You could all do this in a ceremony. Hopefully her 3 yo daughter will have family member who will take her in, perhaps you could stay close in her life to make sure she is being taken care of. If you want something good to come of this I am afraid you will have to make that happen.
2006-06-26 01:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is wrong but what has to happen happens. I lost my mom in a freak accident ten years ago when I was just 17 and my sister just 15. It was 1st of January and we were just returning from a friends place after lunch. She was the only support of our family. At that time even I had the same questions. We will never know the answers. All we can do is pray for the departed soul. May you find some peace in my answer. Be with your friends family and comfort them. May god give you and them the strength to bear this loss.
2006-06-26 01:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by sudjenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not supposed to question this action; however, I understand what you are saying. My sister died and left behind a two year old and eight month old. It seems that life is full of suffering because of Adam and Eve and the people who are corrupt and continue to destroy our world. Who knows why things happen. All you can do is continue to believe and pray. The only way to survive and look forward is to believe and pray for God to give comfort and answers. I do not understand why children are hurt so badly. They are innocent and put here by Him. Seems like we could protect them from pain and let them be innocent. I don't have the answers for you. I wish I did. The world is just a corrupt place and we need to hold on to our faith and not get discouraged. I know it is hard.
2006-06-26 01:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tired Wife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. You must be breaking in two. I don't think anyone can give you an answer. Why take her from the family that needs her? why give an innocent child incurable cancer?
All I can say is that life is often a cruel *****. At least she experienced the joy of having a loving family before she left.
Wish you and the family all the best.
2006-06-26 01:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Clueless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evolution. As one person dies a baby is born. Destiny. God is real, but you have to understand that he deals with broader issues. Kind of like the CEO of heaven. I don't know that god wanted us to invent cars, etc.. to pollute the earth and get us around faster and more dangerously. Humans invented cars and humans drive them. Why does everyone always want to blame god?........Sometimes there are really just no reasons. There are just tragedies and they happen for no particular reason other than carelessness, bad road conditions, or whatever. Don't look for answers like that....you'll drive yourself nuts. Accept the fate and move forward.
2006-06-26 01:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by lade40free 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear it was her time and all that. God wanted her. I feel so bad for you and her family. We are selfish. We don't want to let go of our loved ones. Its the hardest thing to do. But her job here was done. We are here to do specific things. When we are done with what we are to do, then its our time to go. Its never fair. Its always too soon. But that is how it is. I'm sorry that it had to be this way. Time will help heal. I will pray for you honey. You will make it through this. Be there for her daughter. I'm sure she'd want you to be there for her. Take care.
2006-06-26 01:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know ur right why but you know every why has an answer same as this question but i can tell u y...
see peaple have to die some day i am not saying that she had to die now i am just saying that maybee in more couple of year later she had to die but its really good that she died now because when her child growed up she would got use to her but now she is a`little kid and she can forgett it easily later but if she was older she would be really really sad of this random but its good that she is a kid and she can forget it but the only thing i hop for is .is that u would help her kid because she is the child of ur best friend
and remembre look at like she is ur child because she was ur best friends and be sure that ur best friend needs ur help so how can u help her ,by helping her child be for her as u r her mother help her please she needs ur help.... god bless her........
2006-06-26 01:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is life. It has no guarantees. Which is why we need to live each day like it is our last, and each day embrace the people we love like we'll never see them again. You will not find comfort by feeling bitter. Turn your anger around and be a supportive friend to her husband and role model for her daughter. (This is what good "girlfriends" do.)
PS-Acceptance will set you free.
2006-06-26 01:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your reason for feeling angry at "you know who". I really don't think there is any RIGHT answer to give you. You are grieving right now, and nothing anyone says will sound right. Your friend is gone....and there is no one who can give you the reason. When tragedy happens, we always wonder why?? Just please, be there for her daughter. She'd want you to do that. So sorry for your loss.
2006-06-26 01:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋