Im a pure virgin. not afraid about.
but it hurts me that they rely on papers instead of persons.
should I continue with the alliance?
2006-06-26 01:18:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask same certificates from the boy!
If they agree without any brooding, then they are genuine people and really concerned with today's falling moral standards. Tha is they are looking for the best match for their son.
If they make faces, then simply ignore this match as they are typically conservative and obsolete people who may react anti women at times.
This suggestion comes from a boy in Delhi, India.
Byee, take care
2006-06-26 01:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you both (bride and groom) from very traditional families? If so, you may need to consent before the groom will be allowed to marry you. If you say no, at best the families will think you are no longer a virgin, and at worst, the groom's family will not allow the marriage. If you care for him, it's likely easier to consent, so everyone will be happy. Good luck to you.
2006-06-26 08:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by winter iris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the family, what does the groom say? If you love him and he loves you surely you should trust eachother on this and be able to talk. If he says he wants proof then he is not worthy of you. If he says it is needed not for him but to keep the family happy then its your call. You could just do it and all will be well or you could tell him to say no to them and put you first. The problem here is that he may do as you ask but could pay a terrible price in losing people he cares for as well.
2006-06-26 08:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by patti_felz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell not, if his family is all up in your bussiness like this, they'll be all up in your bussiness for the rest of their lives. And how do you certify a female as a virgin. Who looks at it and says, yup she's a virgin? Break it off before his parents try to controll your life.
2006-06-26 08:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention that what's your would be's response.
And I have to know how far you involved in this alliance.
Well.
Why don't you call your man on a coffee shop meeting to discuss about this issue?
Tell him clearly you don't like this even though you are eligible.
If he can understand you, you can trust him.
Otherwise, he too insisting test, better you drop him.
You cant live with a suspecting crew arround you.
2006-06-26 09:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely something to think about. If they do no trust you about such an important matter, the it may be pretense for things to come if you marry. If you love the man enough though, you will be able to deal with his family.
2006-06-26 08:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Raistlin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 to 1 the boy isn't a virgin, in the indian culture the males can **** all they want but it's a no-no for the females, but it makes me wonder if it's o.k. for the men to **** the women, but the women have to be virgins to marry, no wonder the family wants papers, dump this ****** and his ****** familey
2006-06-26 08:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by The Pooh-Stick Kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, definately. Remember even Lord Rama had put Sitamata to test. We r in no better times as of today. Kaliyug !!! Today just the word of mouth is not enough, it's the evidence that counts.
2006-06-26 08:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Nilesh S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to marry someone who doesn't know you, love you, or even trust you to be a virgin? Marry for love - your heart will tell you who the man is you belong with.
2006-06-26 08:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by fruitnroo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are u nuts. y r u even askin this question?the groom is a total looser nd his family is goin to gve u hell if u marry dis dude.if they can be so mean nd b4 marrisge then they might even kill u latr. totally dump dis alliance,sweetie. u deserve better. take care.
2006-06-26 08:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋