I feel like all my friends are calling it quits....and it seems like I'm on the verge myself.
2006-06-25 23:30:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not! Nor will I ever!
My husband is stuck with me for the rest of his life.
Laws and social aspects makes it too easy to divorce these days.
It is so much easier to just give up rather than working on or fixing a relationship.
People also go into a marriage thinking that it is going to be a TV romance forever. When reality hits they don't like it, so they leave hoping to find this marital eutopia that does not exist.
2006-06-25 23:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it has to do with the generation and how people are raised.
No sense of communication.
A predominantly consumeristic society of kids willing to buy the hottest thing on the market and when that thing gets outdated in 6 months - turn around and buy the next hot generation.
Their view on relationships being similar. Hot now, but when the chips are down and another hot model comes along....so easy to cut and run rather than find value and pride it what they have...
Those that were raised well have a sense of community, respect, and value for their partner.
It's so easy to give up isn't it?
I also think that life expectancy and longevity play an important role too. People are still getting married young....but they live a whole lot longer.
Sweden has a 5 year marriage rule...ever hear of that?
You get married...but it's only for 5 years...if you want to stay married...you have to do it again.
I think that's kind of cool.
2006-06-26 07:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem like everyone is getting divorced nowadays. Our society disposes of everything that gives us any kind of problem, whether it be a little problem or a major one. It is that attitude that is contributing to the downfall of society.
Please remember that anything worth having and loving is worth fighting for. I have been married going on 8 years now. Some of the things we went through were awful! But, we were able to work it out and our relationship is 100 times stronger and happier that we faced and overcame trouble together. To have a great marriage, you must overcome obstacles. If you just throw in the towel cuz things get a little tough or you don't feel sparks anymore, you will never have a good marriage. I say that cuz every relationship is gonna have issues. Working through problems TOGETHER makes you as an individual and as a couple stronger and wiser. The feeling of being secure in a good relationship is a great feeling that has to be fought for and earned. It doesnt just happen, you have to work for your marriage everyday. There are not a lot of things in life that need that kind of devotion and loyalty but your relationship to God, your spouse, your family, and friends are worth every ounce of time and energy you have. I hope you can work things out and maybe even show your friends that divorce doesn't always have to happen. Good luck and God bless you and yours!
2006-06-26 07:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by red_rx7_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People these days just don't value commitment nor are they willing to "work" at a relationship. In this day and time we want fast food, fast cars, and a fast way to get to "XYZ" which is THE perfect life.
We marry way too young thinking that the excitement is love when we haven't lived. If I'd have had more independence and belief in myself, I wouldn't have married the first person that came along and thought I could make it work. I was too young and too naiive.
Take time out to do something really sweet for your partner/wife today. Something that you might have done in the beginning. People get caught in the ruts of life and the blame game.
Life is way too short. Be happy!
2006-06-26 07:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by K's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mayb They cant stand each other...And found someone else they would like to be with. Its really seems like quiting but not quite. Itz just like leaving their past behind and trying something new.
2006-06-26 20:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they give up too easily on the marriage vows they made. Apparently when they got married to begin with they were too young and immature to take it seriously and realize it was a lifelong commitment.
2006-06-26 07:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because people get married for the wrong reasons. I know I did first time round. So this time when I do get married at least I know what I need as apposed to what I thought was right.
2006-06-26 07:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are getting married to soon. ( Before they really know the person) I think you should live together for about 1-2 years before you get married.
2006-06-28 23:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sonya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Independence rather than interdependence.That s the fateful word for relationships to thrive.
2006-06-26 07:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep its really sad these days so many ppl divorce,im so afraid of that also,lol im not married but im afraid i marry a wrong person and what then??? i dont wanna divorce
2006-06-26 06:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋