They always seem to fall out with me, and I'm not the sort who fights back at them, but they abuse me thought text messages and bulling me at school. Is there anyway I can get help, with out involving the teachers?
2006-06-25 23:22:46 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No there is not, tell them to stop or else, what they are doing is called harassment and they could get in some serious trouble for it, they can even get into juvy, if it doesn't stop tell a teacher
2006-06-25 23:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pandora Tommorow 4 · 15⤊ 2⤋
Bullies whats the best way to deal with them !!!
You have to tell someone teachers, principal, parent, bulling is not allowed and is taking very seriously, keep the text messages do you have proof for the teacher or principal, if you really dont want to go to the teachers go the your guidance councellor and ask their advise. Bullies needs to be stopped and it could get much worse for you sont let it go too far, also I recommend that you find some new friends cause this group is obviously not true friends.
You can stand up to them by telling them you are not afraid of them or you could tell one of their parents, pick one that you think will be on your side and show them the text messages.
You know people who are bullies only do i cause they are unhappy themselves or jealous.
Good Luck
2006-06-25 23:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by red lyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment you seem strong and unaffected, they will stop, but sometimes that is hard to do, so tell your family, teacher, counseler and they will help you. I was bullied at school, and its peole who are jealous of you and feel threatened of you, or insecure with themslevs that do this sort of horrid thing. People want status, and think that bullying is a great way of acieving that, however it is disgusting, mean, insensitive, selfish, immature and not acceptable! Put your foot down, get the help you need and dont worry about telling teachers because i was worried but the moment teachers got involeved it stopped. I became strong and powerful, and that bully wanted to then be my friend, but i was invincible and uninterested. Do not give these pathetic losers the time of day! Seek the help you require. We all experience some kind of bullying in our lives, do not be embarrassed. And these people are not your frineds rememeber.
2006-06-25 23:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by smart_babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems that you are not really there friends, it seems more like you there "punching bag". So first find some other friends, the ones you think you have are not. Next see if you can become friends with a computer geek if only for a little while, and next time they IM you let him fix there cell up with a denial of service 'virus' or some other thing that will stop them from IM'ing you. Of course the best action is just keep away from them...they will get tired and look for another scape goat...good luck
2006-06-25 23:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by themhjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ring your phone company, tell them you are getting abusive texts (100's per day) and can they change your number, immediately. They should offer to change it for free.
Keep all the threats in your saved messages and show them to your local police station.
Change your number sweetheart, that will mystify them, when it comes back "not sent to" ... and DO NOT tell ANYONE your new number until things calm down and they move on to someone else. If you do give you new number out, write down exactly who you gave it to, so if the bullying starts again, you at least can narrow it down to just a few, who may have spread your number around.
Get onto the phone company at lunch time today, and change it. It costs nothing.
2006-06-25 23:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with confrontation is learned (sadly) in High School. You need to decide if you are going to stand by and let it happen & be miserable or do something about it.
*decide you are not going to take the harrassment*
I do NOT mean you should fight them physically...just open your mouth and defend yourself
find a way to keep your cool
Staying calm is the hardest part
get your number changed for starters, and practice ignoring them
if they are pushing you around or hurting you physically you should talk to a school counselor.
self protection is a basic instinct, you need to work on yours
& remember...people that make fun of you have their own insecurities that they are trying to hide by pointing out yours
2006-06-25 23:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one the most heinous things that happens to kids because so many adults are like "Just deal with it, they'll outgrow it. Or you won't remember how bad it was" And that's all a crock. WHat's happening is cruel and detrimental to you...So who do you have that you trust? Mom? Dad? Older siblings? Aunt Unccles? think of everyone and let them know what you're going through, I guarantee these people want what's best for you. Enlist their help and determine what YOU want to do They can contact the Principal and have your classes changed or they demand that you and your taunters meet face to face with a counselor and see how that goes. Good luck, let me know OK?
2006-06-25 23:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to tell your parents and get them to go and see the head teacher, thats probably the only way it will stop. My daughter is in the same boat. As for the texts, if they are threatning in anyway take your phone down to the police station if you have kept your texts and they can deal with that. Good luck and keep your chin up.
2006-06-25 23:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're bullying you they're not your friends. Don't react, just ignore them and make some real friends. If that doesn't help, you need to speak to an adult you trust - parent, aunt, someone like that. There are lots of things that can be done to stop it, and it's much better to speak out than suffer in silence, but remember that reacting face to face with them and letting them see that they're upsetting you is letting them win.
Take care and good luck.
2006-06-25 23:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by pipi_lollipop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to stop bullying you in person. do not reply to their emails and text messages, this only lets them know they are bugging you. letting them know that makes them feel better. Do not give out your phone or IM names to anyone but kids that you trust from now on. I am not sure you will not be able to involve teachers. don't let this get out of hand, your safety (emotional and physical) is what you need to think about protecting. best wishes.
2006-06-25 23:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they arent your friends if they are behaving so nastily.....
ask your parents if you can change your phone number maybe and dont give these people your number!!
if you show them it doesnt get to you they may get bored and leave you alone.... go make new friends they'll soon see you dont need them and hopefully leave you alone...
failing that, talk to a teacher which i know you said you didnt want to do as it can make it worse in some cases but use it as your back up plan if it continues and gets unbearable....
remember bullies are weaklings themselves and often make fun of people to cover up their own insecurities...
hope it works out for you hun, nobody deserves to be harrassed
:) keep smiling
2006-06-25 23:31:41 · answer #11 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋