I love children but I don't want any of my own.
2006-06-25 22:40:47 · 27 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's up to you. it really depends on the person. it's your choice so it's not selfishness. it's selfishness if you married a man with own children and you don't accept his children whom he loves and come first in his lives. it's also selfishness if you choose someone to be with whom who want to have children but still you don't want to. better be with someone who also don't want kids of their own.
2006-06-25 22:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by babypards 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its selfish - I just had my first baby in Jan & I love being a mom -but its not for everyone
Since you said you love children -but dont want one of your own
maybe someday you may want to adopt an older child or foster a child - there are so many kids out there that need a good home -sometimes I think its selfish when people want to have their own natural born child when there are thousands & thousands of babies being born around the world that will end up with no parents & in orphanages
I myself plan to adopt atleast one child even if I have another one of my own - I will still adopt
2006-06-26 05:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Photogra-mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what stage of life you are in, actually i feel there are certain things you have to look out for or certain things you must have achieved before you consider having children.
I am completely opposed to a situation where kids bring in kids to the world and think they just got a new puppy. If you are old enough and don't want to have kids of your own but still think you could give a child all the love and care he/she will need you could always visit an adoption agency.
Good luck to you.
2006-06-26 05:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by Gee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have children. You will know when you are ready, if you ever become ready. Your probably in a major period of your life and having children would slow that down, and there is nothing wrong with that. It takes a lot to be a good parent and if your not willing to give up certain parts of your life then don't stress it. Keep moving forward with what you have going... who knows maybe the desire to have them will come!
2006-06-26 05:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand..I love children too,but i'm at the stage where i don't know if i want them either..there a Huge responsibility!!!Not something to take lightly if your not sure about it...no it's not selfish..it would be more selfish to have them and ignore them or abuse them..at least your being an adult about it.
2006-06-26 05:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! Not all people were made to be parents, and if you know this about yourself, then this is great! You can be the best aunt, friend, helper, babysitter, or whatever to all of your friends and family without having to care for them (the children) around the clock. Besides, if you know you don't want to (or can't be) committed 100% to your own children, you might as well be committed to other people's children! =)
2006-06-26 05:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by ampotratz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , it is wrong i suppose ,you are going against the law of nature.
Being a girl if you say that is something strange,
If your parents also have thought in a similar manner, then you won't be over here in th world.
Being a mother is the thing that every woman wish to be..?
I don't think so you enjoy watching up a laguhing kid.. or a sleeping baby ..
they are the one who would be taking care of you in your old age..
Childern are necessary bcoz they are the best teachers.
they taught you to be disciplined , patient and makes you caring and more loving..
They are the ultimate bond between you and yr spouse.
They are the gift of GOD. and you are denying that gift.
Different celebrities also die to have someone who can call them as "mom"..
May be you don't want to have that same happiness and feeling of LOVE..
so All the BEST your ahead lonely life..
2006-06-26 06:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by Rahul Agarwal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT at all selfish to not want children.That is your choice and children should ALWAYS be a choice.
What IS selfish are the people who irresponsibly make children outside of stable relationships, or have children because they THINK that is what they should do.
Your choice is the right one for you and that is all that should matter.:)
2006-06-26 05:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant say anything about what u dont want..its perfectly alright but if ur life partner loves kids and wants to be a father then u have a problem..
2006-06-26 05:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by gentle_cute_man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not selfish because if you are not ready for a child yet then why go out and have one at least you is honest and i give you alot of respect for that i say wait til you is ready continue to play with other peoples kids thats your best choice since you is not ready
2006-06-26 05:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by meckadance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋