I listen to their problems, and no matter how terrible they are, I always give them an ear, if they want advice and I have any I offer it, if they need food, shelter, and clothes, I give it.. and sometimes, no matter how terrible my life is, I hold my head high for them, I stand behind them, and sometimes.. It gets so lonley, and so terribly sad, and I feel so damn unlucky and doomed at times.
2006-06-25 22:19:52 · 14 answers · asked by ladysnoozer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell me about it
2006-06-25 22:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jake 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You haven't really elaborated on your own problems so it's difficult to assess why you are feeling so bad.
But the one thing that comes through loud and clear from your question is that you seem to be investing far too much of your time and your heart in other people whilst completely neglecting yourself! You are putting aside your own feelings and wants for the sake of others, which is noble but if done excessively can be extremely unhealthy.
Don't you think it's time you started to be a little more selfish and invest some time in making yourself happy? Don't give people the impression that you are just a sponge for their problems. Let them know that you're also a person, with your own wants and needs. The people in your life need to give something back, not just receive.
2006-06-26 05:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Stu147 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a good person with a big heart. I was feeling down right now, too. You have given much, I hope life gets better for you. Remember, feelings are just that, feelings. I don't think you are doomed or unlucky. I wish I knew what to tell you. Please talk to one of those people to whom you listened when they needed a sympathetic ear. They may give you some comfort and advice. Bless you.
2006-06-26 05:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jack Nicholson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel so lonely and sad, because at times you don't really want to be at other people's disposal, but you feel obligated to listen and help...maybe you can't say no?
You sound a bit depressed. Take a vacation...away from those many people...and work out a strategy on how to prevent feeling burnt out!!!! You need to have a hobby or two, so those many people don't always think you just sit there and wait for them to come to you- always ready to help them out.
2006-06-26 05:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling the price that you have been paying, for neglecting your personal needs. I learned that I was the same way. We give as a way of avoiding what we need to be doing for ourselves. There are ways to deal with it as long as you seek professional counseling. We cannot go through life without help.
2006-06-26 05:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be cruel, but you need to stop being a doormat.You are a person too, with your own needs.Relationships are about both give and take,and until you stop being a martyr, and become a real person, complete with obvious flaws,people will take what they can and not give back.
2006-06-26 05:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by rnedavis1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a giver and not a taker. You give so much of yourself to all the people around you that it wears on you and depresses you. Keep being who you are and eventually someone will see you for who you are and appreciate that quality in you:)
2006-06-26 05:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by laserbeam1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are like that dear.
You find selfish people everywhere.
Forget whatever happened so far. Now understand where you erred. Start minding your own business, instead of wasting time on others. Why are you wasting your valuable time for such people.
2006-06-26 05:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there & done that. You're making extra-special efforts & sacrifices for those you love, but you're leaving yourself out. Don't forget yourself & your needs... you need love & you need help sometimes, too. Make sure they realize it. No doubt, they see you as a very strong individual, & unfortunately for you, that makes them forget that there are times when you need a shoulder to lean on, too. GBU
2006-06-26 05:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for your depression. keep doing what your doing though. your helping people all around the world is amazing. some lucky man will figure that out and drop down to your knees.
2006-06-26 05:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a gem,
you do so much for people, not for their responses, you do it for your God .
the god see you and will give you the best rewards, more than what you can image.
give youeself more time, and do what make you happy.
2006-06-26 06:56:33 · answer #11 · answered by ayat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋