I am married to a real controlling rude jerk who makes me feel like a real piece of crap but we have a child together so i stay ..anyhow the hubby makes me feel like a dog and i met this guy online and he makes me like a queen only he dont know that im married or that i have a child and i think he cares alot bout me now and says life without me he would rather die sniff .. i know i cant leave the husband cuz i made a commitment to him how do i break it off with the online guy we been talking for 2 years and he has no idea im married with a child i feel really guilty ans selfish cuz he really helps me feel beter bout myself as a person.. i dont deserve him and need to let him go so he can find sumone that will be able to show him love .. i dunno how to let him go and i dont want too .. how can ibreak it off with him without making him feel like crap .. i dont want to hurt him by telling him the truth
2006-06-25 21:38:21 · 10 answers · asked by heartbrokenthensum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Even if you told the guy on-line the truth, he still might not want to let go of you. He's probably too attached to you, to let go easily. It may be that the only way you can break free from him is, if you cut him off completely... be strong & determined not to ever contact him again, leave no trace of yourself (no way that he could contact you). Many long years ago, I was married to one like your hubby, had 2 kids & stayed with him for their sakes, but I ended up suicidally depressed. Staying with the dad for the child's sake isn't always what's best for the child... don't forget that a child needs their mom to be happy. If the mom is miserable, the misery will spill over & affect the child. Sure do hope you do what's best... not just for the child, but for you, too.
2006-06-25 21:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell the online guy the truth THEN break it off with him or he will think he's to blame. Then, take your child and leave your jerk husband asap! Get yourself a job and make him pay his part of child support. Why should you live a life of a doormat just because you said "I do" to the wrong guy?? Do you think this behavior will have any impact on your child?? You better know it...he'll be bullying the kid too. Make a bee line for a lawyer!
2006-06-26 04:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is no getting around the truth and there is no way to avoid hurt feelings. The best thing to do is not to try to break up while you are feeling emotional and to do it as soon as possible. Tell him very kindly what you have said here. He's human, he will be hurt, and he will have to get over it. You are doing him a favor by not letting him become a homebreaker.
2006-06-26 04:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe this is a question you can ask other people i thinkyou must look inside yourself and ask yourself if this is something that you want to continue with and you cannot have both worlds you cannot convince yourself that you will stay married and have this internet fling on the side that wont work yu got to decide and let that decision rule.
2006-06-26 04:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by youle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing all the wrong things.
You are a doubled faced woman.
Change your email ID.
Don't encourage him further.
He will not die as he just wants to f u ck you and forget.
This is not love, but lust.
Tell him the truth.
2006-06-26 04:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing to do is tell him the truth, try to get some alone time, and just tell him the truth, its the only way
2006-06-26 04:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by armyfreak35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will hurt him more by hiding things that way, my ex of 30 years did that to me and it hurt so bad, better to make a CLEAN NEW AND HONEST start...just cause you have a kid doesnt mean youre gown up yourself...do the right thing, get right with him,with god and with yourself....
2006-06-26 04:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by fistfull5000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lust does not linger 2 years. divorce the dick. gain custody of your child, and pursue a man who appreciates you. simple answer. he made a commitment to you to, to love and cherish. if he doesnt obide, why should you?
2006-06-26 04:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by jw11432 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, TELL HIM THE TRUTH!!!
2006-06-26 06:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by TAG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him
2006-06-26 04:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋