My son and I have had a good relationship but lately he doesn't seem to want anything to do with me. He lives in a different state and is grown with his own family. He told me all he needs is his wife and son and needs no one else. He likes being alone. Is this normal? I have always been there for him anytime he has needed me and have not hurt him in any way. He is my only child and I really miss him. He has distanced himself from me and I don't know why. He has always held things inside but more so now than ever. I have tried talking to no avail. Any suggestions?
2006-06-25 21:37:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Could be he just wants to feel independant...and not thought of as a "mama's boy"...or perhaps things at home aren't going as well as he wants you to believe...and has withdrawn because of it. I prefer being alone myself quite often...and have been known to shut out family members at times...without thinking of how it may make them feel. I don't really have any suggestions except to continue being there for him...and hope that eventually he'll open up to you about what the true reason is for his distancing himself. Good luck! :)
2006-06-25 21:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ðëññï§ 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I guess he wants some distance mainly because you were there the whole time. His entire life revolved on you and now that he's got a family of his own, and considering he is a guy, he needs independence to prove he can do things on his own, attend to and be responsible for his new family.
Give him time, sometimes you have to look behind whats visible to the eyes. Listen to what's unsaid. It could be that he is going through some tough times right now and might not want to discuss it with you. You can assure him you are there for him but distance yourself from him. At least for the meantime, until he is ready again. You can only do so much for a person.
Dont try hard to reach out to him, he just might react in a way you wouldn't like.
Since you are sure you have a good relationship with each other, you do not have anything to worry about. Trust your son. Give him what he's asking for, not what you want for him.
2006-06-25 21:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have an insecure wife telling him to make a choice between her and his family. That does happen. I've had the same experience, have learned to live with it and go about my life. You would be surprised how many women I know who spent their lives raising kids and now, it seems more sons, the kids won't even acknowledge their mothers. Doesn't seem right when you do the best you can. I would back off if I were you; or call his wife to ask her what's happened. Perhaps they feel pressured or smothered. At any rate, ask. And if it appears that they really don't want any contact, just back off and ask to see the kids. I don't think there is a clear cut answer to this problem. But God Bless you anyway.
2006-06-25 21:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is quite strange since you pple have a good relationship before now.But do you know what i appreciate most, it's your objectiveness.You have not linked this to anyone, some mothers would have linked it to their daughter-in-law. God in His mercies will see you through this (amen). For strange problems like this i suggest you solve it on your KNEELS. Take it to God in prayers, he gave you this son and desires that he HONOURS you not ABANDON you. As long as you desire that it be well with him all the days of his life God will certainly hear you. Be PERSISTENT in prayers and CALL him frequently, don't query him on anything just register your love for him and his family. Always send your regards to his FAMILY as a whole, to his SON and WIFE . I tell you God will fight thus battle for you. He is your son he should not suddenly become your enemy, whatever it is keep your stand right with God and you can be sure of victory. Pour your heart to God ,you have laboured on hm and seen him through to this stage God will definately not forget your labour of love. You have STRONG reasons why your child should not abandone you at your old age, present them to God.HE promised that you children will be round your table, that you will see your children's children.
Dear Sister just make your decision to be on the wining side and i tell you, you will laugh at last (Amen)
2006-06-25 22:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by mitee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just consider me as ur son & mail me to soorajnathm@yahoo.co.in
2006-06-25 21:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by sooraj 666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋