how can you tell if your wife is cheating on you?
many years together and a now she has changed. she says she loves me and when we are together it shows, to some degree.
but when we are apart, she becomes selfish and thinks only about herself. she goes out and stays till late. and the only defense she has is that she is not with another man. why can't she be more responsible?
we have kid together!!
oh yes, few months ago she became good friends with another man, but swears they were only friends!
2006-06-25 21:26:36 · 10 answers · asked by carosal98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The old "we're just friends" line.
This will confound men until the end of time.
Women truly believe they can befriend a man and he will never, ever, have thoughts of violating that friendship with thoughts of a sexual encounter.
They don't understand that men make friendship bonds out of attractivity...we don't pick losers for friends...we pick men like ourselves that compliment who and what we are...the same goes for the women we allow in our life...why be friends with a dog ugly woman...??? Where's the value in having an unattractive (mentally as well as physically) female friend?
There is none!
So this nonesense of "just friends" is crap.
SHE might think they are just friends...HE has to prove it to you.
So meet him.
If she won't let you - or if he seems too slick and devious...
my money says it's an affair.
And you will know the moment you ask to meet him...and when you do....the way he treats you, will tell you his intentions.
Your hackles will raise for a reason.
If she's out with this friend...instead of you...
I would wonder whats up with that...and I promise you...he will too.
2006-06-25 21:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When u are apart she stays late bacause she feels lonely maybe.Responsible means what?is she not taking care of ur house and kids?Or is it that u want her to be spied by u,and every action of hers to be dictated by u?You do admit that it shows she loves u.
Now being frnds doesnt mean having an affair.
She would file for a divorce if she cheats.It is rare that women with kids and a loving husband fool around.
2006-06-25 21:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something a marriage must have , but to help you ....Go to radio shack get a small part that hooks up to phone and records .I use to come home and my ex was on home ,he'd say bye to his sister , I'd say let me talk to her and he would .After the trapping of the phone ( something I only needed for a week ) His sister was on 3 way , she'd yell , I'm not going to listen to you both talk about .. and hang on just in case your wife walks in ! She's going to find out .He'd say if I seen him with this lady , she's married what the h%*@ is your problem ? Or she's my sisters friend of course she visits her ! I go out more because you nag , I nagged because he went out more and would not let me go , well you get the picture .It was the only way I could prove it was happening . On one recording he stated I told her(me) she's losing her mind and if she doesn't trust me I'll divorce her , his girlfriend said That will be great for you but I'm not leaving my husband.He said " Oh , she'll back off now , she won't divorce me" I filed that week .Yes , we did get divorce and she stayed true to her word she stayed with her husband .
2006-06-25 22:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Fairy Tale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut instinct if you get that feeling and don't trust her there is probably a reason. I have been there before my friend. If she is wanting to spend more time with another guy other than her husband then chances are there is something else going on. She needs to be responsible and grow up. She has a family to take care of.
2006-06-25 23:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Durty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a private detective or a less exspensive thing would to be see if one of your friends could spy on where she goes and get proof and pics before you confront her.
2006-06-25 21:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora Tommorow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to bust your bubble my friend . she isnt spending time out lat for nothing and only friends i bet every thing you have typed is a woman who is out and yes she is cheating on you you cant be that dumb on this matter get rid of her she took this other one even over her own child . my opion ?
2006-06-25 21:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not responsible, that's the problem..maybe is better to have a long conversation betwen you two, you can divorce , kid will be yust fine if you give him much loving and sharing!
2006-06-25 21:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by iva b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's definately cheating, why does she say she was'nt with another man while u never asked her?
2006-06-25 21:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by solly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "Why would I not trust her and take her at her word?" Has she ever done anything that has broken your trust?
2006-06-25 21:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by @J@Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all started as good friends only....................
2006-06-25 21:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋