I am a single mother of 4. I had my first child when I was 18. I still manage to go to college and take care of my kids on my own and I got a pretty good job while continuing my education. Does this mean I am a loser forever? My family seems to think so. I have family who have never worked in their whole lives and still living at home with their parents trying to rag on me. It feels like I am the butt of everyone's jokes these days.
2006-06-25 20:38:55 · 28 answers · asked by Oracle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like your family is trying to make themselves feel better by putting you down. Don't go for that crap! It's not easy to be a mother. It's even harder to be a single mother! Been there done that!! Don't worry about them. You've got a family that needs you. Just shake them off of you and hold your head high. Your kids should mean more to you than the LOSERS still living at home not doing anything with their lives.
2006-06-25 20:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by No one of consequence 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
NO! I am a mother of one. I am married, but I know people who are single mothers. You are not a loser, you are a great mother. Any single parent, especially a woman (but not excluding men), who still manages to go to college, take care of their children, and still hold a job is a GREAT MOTHER! Most mom's would have went on a "downward spiral" (giving up, getting on welfare, and crack, and saying forget it, I give up), you don't sound like you were one. You should be very, very proud of yourself. I am sure your children are Don't let anyone get you down. Keep your head up and take care of yourself and your babies, no matter how old they are. Sounds to me like the ones downing you are just jealous because you did well for yourself and children. You go girl! I wish I would have stayed in school, you make me want to go back. I am 24 and even though I do not have the best education (dropped out after my 1st day of 10th grade), I am a very proud stay-at-home mother of one. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 03:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Just_Me♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, do not listen to what anyone is telling you! I give you props for making it with 4 by yourself, without resorting to welfare. Plus, you see that by you continuing your education, you're doing what's best for your kids. You are a wonderful mother, the opposite of a loser!
I'm doing the same thing, but I only have one kid. I have five sisters who talked down about me when I stated I was going back to school. They are nowhere reaching their goals, I may still be in school, but at least I'm going!
Do not listen to your family members who live with their parents. Where will they be 5-10 years from now? Where will you be? Sounds like they won't be successful in life, they won't have reached their goals.
Good luck to you!
2006-06-26 03:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by mizz_kitty_79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in no way a loser. Just the fact that you have acheived so much in addition to being a single mother of 4 makes you a winner. I am a single mother of 3 fighting a similar fight and I know that I am a winner. I could have given up a long time ago but I chose not to. I chose to prove to myself, my sons and everyone else that it can be done. Hooray for all of the single mothers who are doing something to provide a better life for themselves and their children.
2006-06-26 10:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by ktrini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are most definitly not! You are a strong woman who is capable of taking care of not only yourself (which in itself is no easy task) but four children as well. How many women can do anything like that? Even though I haven't lived as long as some I know that you cannot always depend on family. If they don't support you then surround yourself with people who do and who will support you. Wish you all the best.
2006-06-26 03:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Dawn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this not make you a looser this only makes you a stronger person. Think about all the positives and only look forward. Be grateful for what you have. If you would like to talk more about this call me at 1-877-388-1520.
2006-06-27 02:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by jmjj2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you a loser. You just had bad taste in men at one time. If you want, you'll find the right guy someday. You don't need a man to complete your life, however people who have no life of their own, will act like you do. good luck.
2006-06-26 03:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just means that you will never have to share the wonderful relationship that you have with your children with anyone else...and as long as you are managing to take care of you and your children then you seem to be less of a loser than all the other babies mamas out there who can't stay off crack long enough to make sure their children get fed.
2006-06-26 03:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be proud of your accomplishments! Raising children is such a tough job, and while doing that, you bettered yourself. Find that inner core of strength that I know is in each and every single parent, and hold on to it when ignorant people make their stupid jokes. Know your worth. Keep your dignity. You're amazing.
2006-06-27 21:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by jenn_x_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, be proud of yourself for still going to school and furthering your education and having a job, being a single parent can be a struggle but you prove that just because of having a bad circumstance that if you keep hope you can succeed with effort...
2006-06-26 05:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋