I am a 25 year old married man. My wife is 22 years old and is four months pregnant. The problem is that my wife insists me on having sex with her. She is just inconsolable. I did not have sex with her even once thinking that it would harm our baby. My wife repeatedly urges on having sex and says that she is unable to resist me. Would having sex with my wife hurt our baby? How do I console my wife? After she got pregnant I did not have had sex with her.
If you are a mature lady or a doctor please help. I will be grateful.
2006-06-25 20:34:32 · 25 answers · asked by KM 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Believe it or not, during pregnancy, especially the earlier stages, females often develop a greatly increased desire to engage in sexual activity. It's perfectly normal.
As for whether or not having sex will harm the baby, as long as you don't put any pressure on her abdomen by doing things like laying on top of her, then you should be just fine. The cervix actually seals itself so nothing further can get into the uterus and affect the baby, and the vagina itself has nothing to do with your little tyke's growth at this point in time (and you can always wear a condom or pull out if you just can't handle the idea of ejaculating inside her while she's pregnant)... plus sex keeps her vaginal muscles in shape.
So, if you want to be close and have sex with your wife, you should be just fine. If you're very unsure, simply have her ask her ob/gyn to give her some reassurance the next time she's at an appointment, that way you have it straight from the horse's mouth.
2006-06-25 20:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by AndiGravity 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are a lucky man! Your beautiful wife is not only carrying the miracle you created together but she still wants to have sex.
Honestly, the baby would only be harmed if you were very rough with her, and her body will tell her if sex it too rough and she will let you know.
I am not sure if you were planning a baby or not but....if the pregnancy was unplanned you may feel this way because you weren't exactly ready for a baby. Usually when a man really wants a baby, his wife becomes more and more attractive to him as the pregnancy progresses, but there are some men who aren't attracted to their wife during pregnancy.
In a normal pregnancy, sex is recommended. She needs to keep those muscles strong for delivery and let's face it...once you have the baby, sex doesn't happen like it did before. She is tired, dealing with being a new mother and the baby takes priority over everything...including sex.
You should really consider having sex with you wife to let her know that you love and are attracted to her pregnant or not, that you want to have that closeness with her and don't think about the baby...she will tell you if it hurts and what is comfortable for her since she is most likely concerned for your baby too.
2006-06-26 04:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a nurse and also a mother of 3 grown children. As long as her doctor says it is ok, then it is. Each pregnancy is different and since she is past the 3 months it is probably ok. I would be gentle and use a position that does not put a lot of pressure on the baby. Why not try giving her a massage, long foreplay etc. She is probably feeling like she is not attractive to you, reassure her that she is lovely no matter how big she gets. I worked 20 years in a hospital with newborns and mothers and their hormones can really get out of wack. This is your chance to show her how much you love her in many ways other than sex.
If she has any type of bleeding, don't have sex and see a doctor right away. Congratulations on being a father, a new chapter in your life is just beginning, take care to make wise decisions.
2006-06-26 03:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex almost every day until literally the day before having my labor induced, and everything was perfectly fine. My doctor actually recommended it as it can help prepare the cervix for labor! The only reason for you to not have sex during pregnancy is if she is at a high risk for premature labor, or if the water has broken already (which won't be until she is ready to go into labor). It's also perfectly normal for her to have an increased libido, because the additional blood flow makes that whole area more sensitive. So, by all means, take advantage of it while you can! You'll both be happier!
2006-06-26 04:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by bio.nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my first trimester of both pregnancies, I wanted nothing to do wtih sex. I had no drive for it, and my husband was always very understanding. But once I hit 4 months...watch out!! My drive came back 10 fold! I think it's a combination of hormones and accepting your body. She's going through a lot of changes. My advice: enjoy every minute of it while you can (as long as she is healthy and sex is OK per your doctor). Things will be a little different once that baby comes (different, but not in a bad way). Just be supportive, and congratulations!!
2006-06-26 10:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by geminiparody4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have sex with your wife when she is pregnant, unless there is something wrong with the pregnancy and the Dr says no. You can have sex right up to her due date, as many times a day as you would like. It wont hurt the baby at all!
2006-06-26 07:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by dixiechic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex shouldn't harm the baby. You should go with your wife's urges, pregnancy always puts alot of strain on a relationship... specialy a new relationship and I think that a healthy sexual appitite is the best way to prevent an unhealthy lack of physical interest!!! Good luck and let us know when the baby arrives!!!!
2006-06-26 03:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is going through a hormonal thing, so take advantage of it!!! You won't harm the baby, and the freedom of not needing any birth control will make spontaneity great!!! When I was pregnant I needed my husband all of the time. Believe me the farther along she gets the less you will be able to have sex due to her pregnant belly. So take advantage of this and give in to her needs!!!! You both will be happier for it!
2006-06-26 03:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having sex while your wife is pregnant! The developing fetus cannot tell what you are doing, and is VERY WELL protected against bumps and bounces that mom goes through. The cervis is closed while a woman is pregnant, and unless she is close to her delivery date and a doctor tells you not to, it's FINE! I bet your wife would benefit from being close to you while she is pregnant, and might feel rejected emotionally as well as physically if you keep it up.
2006-06-26 04:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Therealmsred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex will not harm the baby... Some doctors actually will tell you to do so... If she wants to have sex, go for it.... It is not uncommon for men to want sex a lot, and women not too, so go for it while you can! You may also talk to her and see if there is anything you can do to help and take the load off. She will probably be able to tell you what she needs you to do!
2006-06-26 03:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by ~Katie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋