She's been really treating me terribly as of the last couple months, and I know a lot of this is from pregnancy hormones, but yesterday enough was enough and I snapped. Of course she doesn't see things from my point of view and is now even more crazy and furious. What is the best way to go about trying to end this (I don't want to be cut off from seeing my darling 17-month-old niece who is the light of my life)? I really don't want to apologize if possible b/c I meant everything I said. Ideas? Thanks.
2006-06-25 19:46:05 · 11 answers · asked by c_a_t_g_i_r_l_7_7 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
***this is not my little sister, not that I think that has anything to do with it anyway -- but somehow it got interpreted that that was the case and it is not.
2006-06-25 20:28:49 · update #1
THROW CHOCOLATE ICE CREAM AND A BROWNIE AT HER AND RUN OUTA HER PATH or at least thats what my husband does to me....ahahhahahahha good luck
2006-06-26 06:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by mama lesha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I envy you!!! I have not seen my little sister - with whom I had a fight or two, since January 11 1986. I haven't seen my oldest sister since my wedding in Hawaii in Dec 1998 - she lives in Zimbabwe with the rest of my family whom I have also not seen since 1986 - I was exiled from Zimbabwe.
Tree Hugger do you have any idea what I'd do just to have one moment with my family? I'm being illogical is what you should say to yourself. You're the big one here. You have more to lose. Swallow your pride - of course you can do it, that's what big sisters and brothers were made for. Hey remember who carried who when you had to run home from somewhere? It's you she's looked up to. You've never been equal - she's always been your baby sister and always will be. Remember her tantrims? You put-up with them didn't you? Nothings changed, she's still entitled to them and you to letting her have them. Then of course you put your arms around her and say, "I'm a bad big sister... I'm sorry." Even if she's wrong - that's the price we pay for keeping the family together till death do us part. And guess what? Little brothers and sisters are always wrong but what would the world be like if we punished them for every headache they give us, hey? Give your little niece a hug for me. Tell her and her soon-to-come sibling how lucky they are to have a mother like the one they have. To quote an old western - "let violence prevail no longer in a place where there ought to be love..."
2006-06-26 03:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by brian s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please lighten up on your sister! You're right about the hormones, they make people do/say things that aren't natural or a part of their nature. I know it's not easy to deal with pregnant women (I know because I've dealt with several of them) but don't let a fight destroy a beautiful relationship. You'll regret it in the future. I have a personal story very similar to this, if you're interested in hearing it and how it was resolved, message me.
2006-06-26 02:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to apologize for what you said, but maybe for *how* you said it. Explain to your sister that you don't want to lose a relationship with your niece or the unborn baby and you'd like to work things out. Go from there.
2006-06-26 02:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i once made my sister mad when she was pregnant. she punched me and i let it go and ran away to my friends house. usually if id stay away from her for just a weekend, then things evened out. or atleast have less tension. maybe you can check the spas around town and see if they have any specials for pregnants ones. that may relax her fury for atleast a little while. her hormones are going to be insane these next few months! just let things go, she cant really help it.
2006-06-26 02:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of apologizing for what you said, say "I'm sorry that we fought and I'm really sorry I upset you. I hope we can be friends because I love you and I love (your niece). I really want to get along, do you think you can forgive me?"
That way, you're not apologizing for what you said, but instead for how you made her feel.
2006-06-26 02:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by LeAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless, you have experienced this youself you won't understand what she is going through. The baby is growing, moving around,and probably keeping up at night. She is probably sleep deprived even before the second baby comes. It will get better. Just be there for her.
2006-06-26 03:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by CarolynB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have to set back and wait for them to say they are sorry.
Trust me i have 5 sisters......She will come around. It may be a week or two but watch she will.
2006-06-26 02:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her hormone are a million different directions and like a roller coaster. just try and talk to her use i feel, try not to blame she should listen she's not all with it emotionally
2006-06-26 02:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by lujantm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait another 3 months, it will sort itself out
2006-06-26 02:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by giddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋