he told me that if i had an abortion he would stay and if i didnt he was leaving. he shoved me on the ground like was nothing. he said he wouldnt help me with the baby. i was so happy when i found out i was pregnant. he took all that away, now i dont want to have the baby.
2006-06-25 19:38:08 · 27 answers · asked by wonderwoman 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If you decide that you do not want to have a baby, please hear me out. There are a lot of people like my wife and I who are unable to have a baby. We depend on people who do not want a baby, but have gotten pregnant. There is a large "market" for babies out there and people like me will pay medical costs, etc. to adopt your baby. We don't care about race or gender. Please talk to someone about adoption. You may find someone you know in a place like I am in, so you will be able to keep in touch with your child, but let someone else raise them. If you don't know anyone who is interested, e-mail me.
2006-06-27 00:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Randy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? If he shoved you and you and carrying his baby then that should tell you the reason why. He's an *** hole!. If you decide to have this baby you may as well just start conditioning yourself to handle this on your own with just paying child support cuz it just doesn't sound like he is going to be there physically. Having a baby with a guy "never" gaurantees that he will end up with you. The law will only require him to pay and thats it. You can look forward to doctors appointment alone, 2AM feedings alone, baby crying for no reason non stop in the middle of the night alone, buying clothes, milk and diapers alone. And by the way, calling him in the middle of the night to complain that the baby is out of something just to get him to come over only ends in him getting him another piece of you *** and you still not ending up being together in the long run. His mind is probably already made up as far as you and him is concerned although he may surprise you and totally be there for the child which right now is the "only" important person in this equasion. I'm just letting you in on what you are most likely to expect. I would never try to bull **** anyone in your situatiion just to get your hopes up. Yes it sucks but at least now you have enough to look at in order to come to a decision that works best for you. If you are going to have this baby, go and immediately file for child support and don't even expect to be one big happy family with "him". Focus on welcoming your new baby into the world cuz it's just going to be a lot of just the two of you without him.
2006-06-26 02:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT abort a baby just because of a stupid a$$hole guy!!! If he doesnt want to be with you now, then accept that and get over it!! You and your baby will be better without him anyway, he sounds like a loser and an ***! If you abort the baby I can almost guarantee he will not get back together with you, and even if he does, you will have resentment toward him forever because you had to do something (kill your baby) when you really didnt want to! If you were excited about the baby, stay excited and leave his dumbass and enjoy your baby on your own...you will find someone else that will love you and your baby!!
2006-06-26 02:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I conceived a child out of wedlock and my inital reaction was FEAR. I am not proud of some of the things I did and said. They were even things that went against everything I believe.
Men (or boys as the case may be) are afraid that a baby will force them to become a man. And most boys who go through this phase fear change and the unknown. A baby is a BIG change and very UNKNOWN.
ALL I KNOW is that I am glad my wife and I got married. Our relationship was very immature at the time and technically still is. But we are working through things as best we can, AND I know that we are both GLAD we decided to choose LIFE.
I have often thought about what our LIVES would be like had we decided to not choose LIFE. I know it would be so much harder.
Seek help from people who LOVE you. IN the end, though, it IS ultimately your CHOICE. Just know that you will doubt your decision everyday of your life if you decide against giving birth.
In that case, I would strongly recommend adoption.
2006-06-26 04:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY did you get pregnant, fool?!
Assume responsibility for your actions.
Try to maintain your well-being and your financial future. Abort it and go one with your life.
Don't do this again. Use your brains and birth control. Plan, Plan, Plan. Don't breed like an animal and expect some guy to just go along with your selfish desires.
You've got to provide a stable environment for a child.
If you've got the money and the resources, maybe you could keep the kid. But if you can't pay it's way, you've got to give it up or get rid of it.
Having kids with no rhyme or reason is something that should only happen in undeveloped nations and by people who don't own computers with online access.
2006-06-26 10:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is less than half a man.
The child is yours also and since you're alone the onus falls upon you and anybody that loves and cares about you to make sure that that child is given a wonderful life - teach the child values and principles that is.
Don't cut the child off from his/her right to seek a relationship with the father - it's the child's natural right regardless of what a reject the father may have been.
I am terribly sorry that such a man even exists. I, as a man, am sworn to uphold man's responsibility to the fruits of his loins. I promise you that my son will learn this too. May you have the best of fortunes under these terrible circumstances you've been placed in. And thank you for all men for your decision not to follow the suggestions of you partner. My personal request to you - why don't you leave the door open for him? Have the young one by yourself and give him the chance to grow. Immaturity is known to lead men into irrational behavior at times. The happy family you dreamed of is not out of reach - even in your circumstances.
2006-06-26 03:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by brian s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready for this responsibility. Sounds like he also doesn't care about you enough to think about how this situation affects you (and if he shoved you on the ground, that's a bad sign). If you want to have this baby and are willing to do it as a single mother, don't let him be a part of your decision. He will have to pay child support even if he leaves you.
2006-06-26 02:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuz He Dont Want Have A Baby!!And By The Way You Should Know Him Better Before Sleeping With Him!
2006-06-29 00:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by ❀Mother Of 2❀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonderwoman you have been given the gift of life. Its a blessing hun. He is a horses *ss for his actions.
He obviously doesnt want to be tied down to you or have responsibilities which is what having a baby will do. If you were to get an abortion and he stayed you would regret it for the rest of your days.
Its not the babys fault your pregnant. You and him both share the responsibility. Please dont punish the baby with a death sentence of abortion. If you cannot afford to raise it, please look at adopting it out to a family who are unfortunate and cannot have children themselves.
His words are cold and heartless (harsh) if he cannot have any love or feelings for a fetus he created how is he going to have love or feelings for you?? I know you can do better hun. Dump his sorry *ss and get yourself a real man!
Best Wishes
2006-06-26 02:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by >>>LADY<<< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun you don't deserve that low life loser!!! Obviously he doesn't love you or care for you, if he is putting you in such a predicament like that. Think about it, he shoved you onto the ground which is physical abuse, and put the baby in harms way. Do what you want to do, not what he wants you to do, and leave his punk ***. You deserve so much better, and can get it too if you leave this guy. Do what's right for you...
Good Luck with whatever you chose to do!!!
2006-06-26 02:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by ditzychik508 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you or he wouldn't do that. He shoved you down? Don't let that jerk anywhere near you again. I went through this with my ex, of course I had my baby anyway. Don't let someone like that take away your happiness and your child. You'll regret it. What if you had an abortion, to be with him, then he left anyway. Because he will probably eventually leave. YOU DON'T NEED HIS HELP. Especially with him acting like that.
2006-07-03 00:26:12 · answer #11 · answered by frosty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋