actually its an arranged marraige n i just want 2 b sure of her past.
2006-06-25 19:25:45 · 20 answers · asked by yask4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you speaking English?
2006-06-25 19:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by misskitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy.
from the beginning, communication & trust/honesty is the most important factor in a marriage.
just pray, them let her know you'd like to speak with her. let her know to be honest with you.
on the other hand, emotionally prepare yourself for whatever the answer may be.
if it's going to make a drastic change in your decision on marrying her? then why ask.
the past should be left the past right?
if you want to know, remember you may or may not like what the answer will be. are you ready to accept her answer or not?
there's nothing wrong in knowing your soon to be wife's past. you shouldn't hide anything from each other anyways.
if it bothers you that much, just spit it out & ask her the question. if you don't ask her, you're always going to wonder !!!!!!! so just ask & get it over with.
remember: we make the situation harder then what it really is....we're only human right?
2006-06-25 19:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by lu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to ask chances are, you already know, c'mon if she's reached the age of twenty and had bf's before chances are that she has, but heck, if you realy wanna ask; start off by initating a sex conv. and ask in a semi - not so serious manner. but serious enough that she'll give you the right answer, but if ya'll are going to get married that should be easy to talk about. maybe while ya'll are just playin around or so.
2006-06-25 19:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by hilou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself why it's so important to know the answer before you ask her. Because she may or may not ask you why you need to know, After you have it figured out, wait until the two of you are alone then politely/casually ask her the question. This kind of thing should be a private, unembarrassing conservation. Also don't sound like you are accussing or attacking her, the outcome may be surprising, and you may or may not get the answer you seek
2006-06-25 19:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by lizzy_jones2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R you try 2 ask a girl 2 marry u??
2006-06-25 20:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by gzen_gnieq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged?
What does it matter if she's been with someone else. A lot of women in the world today have sexual relations with men before they get married to their husbands.
2006-06-25 19:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look her past is her past - it has nothing to do with her present. Unless she is still in love with someone else but is being presurrised to marry you. In that case you shld clearly ask her if she whole heartedly agrees to the marriage.
If you hold her past against her, then you are not ready for a relationship with her.
2006-06-25 19:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by estee06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, If that really matters to you, you 'd better make sure by just ask her if she's virgin. But you can never be sure, I heard there are cosmetic surgery you can do to remake/seal up the hymen...so....good luck with that..
I'm intrigued where do you live and why you still have arranged marriage and you still care about that?
2006-06-25 19:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tang Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know that, you shouldnt get married yet. First of all you need to take alot more time to get to know the person you are going to marry. Second, you should be comfortable enough with her to be able to ask her, if not, you are not ready yet.
Slow down.
2006-06-25 19:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by jenisisgrafix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her...being honest from the outset is very important. Ask her the way you have asked us here.."Have you ever been intimate before with anyone?" That's it!!
If she chooses not to answer the question then it is up to her alone. It realy is her business in the end :)
2006-06-25 19:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by caz_v8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the US we usually ask about that kind of thing on the 2nd or 3rd date. Shortly before our premarital sex. Just to make sure they havn't slept with 30 people, but of course they lie and say 'oh, like 5.' For me the girl usually asks first, something like 'how many people have you been with?' we know been with means had sex with. I expect her to reciprocate with an answer but I usually have to ask her 'and you?' Notice we ask how many people cause we don't expect that they are a virgin.
I suggest that you just ask her if it's a concern of your's. Mix it into the conversation. How old are you, what are your parents like, what's your favorite tv show, have you ever had sex before... but if she's not supposed to in your culture then maybe you shouldn't ask. idk
2006-06-25 19:39:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋