my friend is very close to me and i have gained her trust and everything but how do i break it down to her that i like her more than a friend with out blowing off what we have now?
2006-06-25 19:02:41 · 8 answers · asked by Mark A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whatever you, do NOT tell this girl that you like her. Trust me, by doing that you will scare her almost everytime. By scareing her, not only will she not want to go out with you she may not want to be as close.
Instead, you have to make her like you. The best thing to do is to start by flirting with her a little bit. Not a lot, but minor stuff to see where you're at. For example, start off by telling her that she has nice clothes today, or something like that. Joke around with her alittle bit, for example when she does something funny call her "you're a dork! haha", just don't be too mean. Also try getting in her personal space more, and try touching her more like if you hand her something try touching her hand a little bit. If she is receptive to the flirting increase the intensity, and see where that gets you.
Having confedence will also help you out greatly if yodon't display it already. Basically when you talk to her keep your head up, speak in a tone of voice that is hearable, and smile often. Also, stop being her boy-toy. What I mean is if she constantly ask you for favors resist because this wil prove to her that you're not confedent. Don't do girly stuff with her either like if she ask you if she can put make-up on her say "no way!"
Now if you do these things, evetually you will be able totell if she is intrested. Here are some signs that she likes you: 1.) Smiles often, and makes good eye contact. 2.) Her eyes will dialte (get bigger) when sh talks to you (this will happn naturally in darklight). 3.) She trys to touch you often when speaking to you. 4.) Plays with her hair often. 5.) Gets pidgen toe'd (she bends one toe behind the other foot). 6.) Sinks her head into her shoulders like shes shrgging, but in a shy way. 7.) Tilts her head forward, and looks up at you with her eyes. 8.) Reveals her palms to yu somehow. 9.) Maintains uncomfortable amounts of eye contact. 10.) Matches rythmic tones of you body, for example if she matches the tone of your voice or subtle moements.
If she shows you a majority of these signs, this means she is attracted to you. If that is the case ask her to do something with you, then start asking her out on dates. If things work out, then ask her out.
Whatever you do,stay out of the friends zone a best as possible.
2006-06-25 19:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to tell her right away! A friendship is very important and like you said, you already "gained" her trust, so not telling her is a form of betraying that trust. I guess you are just trying to protect your friendship, but sooner or later, the truth that you like her will come out. If she likes you back, then good, but if the feeling is not mutual, in the worst case scenario, she might even think that all those times she hung out with you were chances for you to take advantage or whatever...
My point is, I think it is better to be clear on your feeling early in your friendship. She might be shocked and need some time apart from you... but rest assured that she will appreciate your honesty and sincerity and she will most likely be friends again with you soon... as opposed to keeping it bottled inside... who knows, she might like you back too...
Hope I was of help.
2006-06-26 02:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Arashikitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just got to sit down and tell her. Just say, "Hey, we're great friends and we've built an awesome friendship. I don't want to mess anything up between us but I really like you as more than just a friend." Of course, somewhere in the conversation you have to say that if she isn't interested, that you won't pursue the issue further. THAT will ruin your friendship. I had a friend sit down and tell me the same thing and even though at the time I didn't think if them that way, we later ended up dating and have been for a while now.
Good luck! Be strong!
~Pancake
2006-06-26 02:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive experinced that in my college days. I have this best friend "Harvey", im so open with him. he knows all my secrets and everything about me, hes very close with my family, and me with hes family too. There was one time he wrote me a letter and told me that he loves me more than anything else in this world, i was soooooooooo totally shocked. From that moment in time, i keep on avoiding him and I dont want to talk to him. I just don't know why, i just can't have the nerve to be hes girlfriend...and what the more if he kiss me...Yakky! no way! When i graduated college, i lost contact on him, till now i still dont want to see him. I really don't know why..thinking about he idea of him as my boyfriend is giving me goose bumps. Sorry! But it all depend on the girl. But if you want to open up to her what you feel then try it. Just face the consequences, its really hard because you might sacrifice your friendship with him. Just take time, let her know little by little, he might have a crush on you, then you will live happily ever after. good luck!
2006-06-26 02:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by shaznay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, the best thing to do is tell her. You might be surprised and she may feel the same way about you. If you don't tell her there will always be the "What if?" Question in the back of your mind and that in itself can ruin your relationship. My advice is just tell her.
2006-06-26 02:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if she likes you first. If she does tell her. If she thinks of you only as a friend don't tell her. I was in that position I told her now she hates me.
2006-06-26 02:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by slutster5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SLOW AND STEADY WIN THE RACE.
2006-06-26 02:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by gkakkasseri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't
2006-06-26 02:10:11 · answer #8 · answered by cosmic_convoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋