I want to have a baby, but im only 17 yrs.old and i live with my boyfriend because my grandma kicked me out, so Im alwayz bugging him to give me a baby because I want to give that baby the type of love me mom never gave me when I was small it's a long story and well to make a long story short let's say my family worship male's and the females are treated like **** and not only that, but I have 3 younger brother's and mey family treats me wrong can u believe my brothers touched me unappropriate and CPS put me with my grandma and so my mom told my grndma false stuff about me which made her kick me out.
2006-06-25 18:57:04 · 15 answers · asked by Diva08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WAIT! Nothing will turn your life to worthless shite like having a kid will.
2006-06-25 19:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies take up a lot of time and money. You need to have a great paying job before you consider having a baby.
Wait until you are 21 years old. You will have a job and a salary.
You want to have a baby for the wrong reason. Don't try to use a baby to "make up," for the love your mother never you. It is selfish to think that way.
Did it occur to you that perhaps your mother DID NOT know how to show love to you. Perhaps she did not come from a loving family.
Many cultures worship males. Do you have another relative you can live with?
If not, when school starts in September, go the school nurse and school counselor and tell them your problem, "even about the touching" from your brothers. They should be able to find a safe place for you to live.
Good luck.
2006-06-26 02:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job? Do you have enough money to support a child? Do you have an extra ten thousand dollars a year? That's about how much it'll cost you for having a kid. Having a child just because you feel like you need to make up for your mom is no good reason. I think you should seek therapy/counseling and talk to someone about your situation instead of trying to make up for mistakes your mom made. You have the rest of your life to have a kid. You're only young once and if you have a child now you'll regret not being able to enjoy those years.
2006-06-26 03:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by talkwithflowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you support yourself and a baby without financial assistance? Do you have any employment skills or experience? Do you want your baby to grow up in poverty? Do you have medical insurance? (It costs about $5000 to have a baby) It takes a minimum of $1000 per month to properly provide child care, not to mention other costs like medical and educational expenses. $1000 X 12 months X 18 years + $200,000 education = about half a million per child.
Now, who's going to take care of the baby if you're working? You've been kicked out of your family, and your bf doesn't want a baby. Can't say as I blame him.
2006-06-26 02:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by tee_nong_noy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till your older. I am 22 and I love not having kids yet. There is so much you can't do when you have kids. My friends can never go out because they are too poor cuz of kids or nobody to watch the kids. And you don't want to be a kid with a kid. Your boyfriend may not be ready for a kid your still way to young for that kind of thing. Please trust me. My little sister is pregnant and it wasn't planned she is taking it pretty well. She is 19. She doesn't know how she is going to be able to support it. She also knows that my whole family is here to help her and she still knows that it is going to be a very difficult road.
2006-06-26 02:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by stiffmissionary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM SO SORRY FOR WHAT U HAVE BEEN THROUGH BUT LOOK YOU DONT HAVE A JOB RIGHT?OR UR BF DONT RIGHT?WELL IF U DO THEN THATS GOOD IF NOT THEN NO ITS NOT A GOOD IDEA UR SO YOUNG U SHOULD GO TO COLLEGE AND TAKE SOME CALSSES SO THAT U CAN GET A GOOD *** JOB AND WHEN THE TIME COMES THAT U HAVE A BABY THEN U CAN BUY NICE THINGS FOR IT WORKIN AT A FAST FOOD PLACE OR SOMETHIN LIKE THAT WILL BE SO HARD TO TAKE CARE IF IT THINGS COST ALOT NOW DAY FINISH SCOOL AND GET A GOOD JOB THAT HAS COLLEGE EXP NEEDED
2006-06-26 02:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by MRS.SL33PY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off on that baby. You need to get your life together, work out financial stability with ur bf, and MARRY your bf before u think about kids.
Btw, the earlier u two have a kid, the dumber he will be. It's a fact!
Good Luck!
2006-06-26 02:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
M.. i think you sould get away from that kind of people, in this world are a lot of them, talk to your boyfriend about the baby, and think if you MAY have it. Good luck
2006-06-26 02:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by vatolocowwems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what to say, but i feel that this is very bad. i am married and my wife is 18 years old and we have a baby. it is your right to have baby and give him all the love that you have. but, you need to do your best and don't think a lot about your family and pray to God.... hope your boy friend will undersatand this...
2006-06-26 02:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by michael j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have alot of things going on in yo life i think you should wait until you is financially and physically stable to raise a child you should really think about yo choices a baby is nothing to play with its expensive and requires alot and if you have to keep bugging your boyfriend maybe he is not ready sit back and think before you bring another child into all that drama please just think about it
2006-06-26 02:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by meckadance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ready to bear ur new life..have a baby at 17 why not..be a young mom means u have a respsibilyty to ur baby ...dnt giv up
2006-06-26 02:03:12 · answer #11 · answered by Lyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋