My 12 year old niece is pretty rebellious. Even when we talk nicely to her when she did wrong, she won't even want to hear. Sometime she did pretend to listen to us, but only to agree to just to "entertain" us. She will throw tantrums when we scold her or even if we talk to her nicely. She tell lies very often. Anyone have similar problems with their kids or nieces/nephews and what is the best solution?
2006-06-25 18:49:53 · 11 answers · asked by galgal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
MY NIECE IS THE SAME WAY. YOU HAVE TO SHOW HER THAT YOU ARE SERIOUS AND SHE WILL LISTEN. TAKE AWAY THINGS THAT SHE LOVES TO HAVE. IF YOU DONT WANT HER TO BE A TEENAGE MOTHER YOU HAVE TO GIVE HER SOME HARD LOVE. IF YOU TALK TO HER AND SHE ACTS LIKE SHE ISNT INTERESTED SEND HER IN HER ROOM WITH NO TV NO PHONE TURN THE LIGHT OFF AND WHEN YOU FEEL SHE HAS BEEN IN THERE LONG ENOUGH CALL HER BACK OUT AND HAVE THAT SAME CONVERSATION WITH HER AGAIN AND I BET SHE LISTENS THIS TIME. LET HER SEE THAT HER ACTIONS DO HAVE CONSEQUENCES BECAUSE WHEN SHE GOES OUT INTO THE REAL WORLD THERE ARE NO DO OVERS LIKE WHEN YOU ARE A KID
2006-06-25 18:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I can see from here, before teel her or advise her anything, I feels that your niece herself having a problem.
Why don't you ask her wheter is in any problem and offer a helping hand before advise her ....
2006-06-26 02:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by ANISH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking her priviledges away..make her earn them back... too many are so worried about kids feelings and the kids know that and use that to manipulate them with it...
Sounds like she thrives on the attention you give her....I tell kids that come over if they act like a 2 year old I'll treat them like one...
When my son tries to pull their stupid games.. I just say "I don't understand your language..sorry" and walk away...he stops really quick when he knows I am not going to be played like that by a kid...
If he is foolish enough to continue ..I tell him to write it in a letter and send it to me...I'll read it and get back to him on it...so far I haven't gotten a single letter...kids hate it when they can't pull your chain and get you upset to get their way...
Shame you can't swat them on the butt...it works well..kids need boundries and a 12 year old who acts like a 2 year old needs some major help .... they need to learn self control...when they turn 18 and do it..off to jail they go..so it is NOT a bad thing to teach them how to behave properly....
Cottling,walking on egg shells and all the other "give ins" only give them more power and doesn't teach them there ARE consequences to their actions....
I know many are going to think I am mean..yet...I am responsible for helping my child become a PRODUCTIVE and CIVILIZED member of society....as are all parents....
My son's friends have all stopped their immature behavoir & manipulating their parents when their parents did what I do...now they are 10 & 11 and people say what nice kids they are....
Disciplining a child is not a bad thing....it is needed for their futures...
Our nation has wussied out under pressure from this BS the schools are teaching our kids about their "rights"....if they have food,shelter,clothes and caring parents....those are their ONLY rights !! The rest is a priviledge to have....many kids in other countries have none of it...and they live to be 18...
Stand up to them & BE the parents..not wimper & feel sorry for their hurt feelings..we all made it just fine being told "NO ! "
Weren't you ever told "NO" by your parents? Did they care if you liked the decisions they made with their knowledge & experiences ??
IF she has a "REAL" problem..then she'll gladly write a letter & explain it to someone....it sounds more like she has never had to learn to control herself and face any consequences for her actions..as her actions are hurting MANY people...that is not good for anyone..she's being emotionally & verbally abusive...showing no respect for anyone..not even herself...
2006-06-26 02:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by justnanous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her rewards for every thing she does according to ur wish, or punish but this is the last option, it shld be like not letting her eat chocolate or watch cartoons etc
2006-06-26 01:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by soman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to care. Correct her and lead by example. You are all in my prayers. Peace.
2006-06-26 02:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find peer group ally some one who she identifies with to talk with her set firm rules for behavior and above all be consistant in your behavior and enforcement
2006-06-26 01:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by oddbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good intentions imposed on another will only cause suffering
2006-06-26 01:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by unseen_force_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
threaten her with juivy or one of those drill seargeants that will follow her everywhere and yell at her...hey it works!
2006-06-26 01:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by seventhundersuttered 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cool and be sensitive about her attitides
2006-06-26 01:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUT A SPANKIN TO THAT BACKSIDE!
2006-06-26 01:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋