Marrying a guy 7 years senior. Good or bad....?

Question

Thanks for all your answers. Most of them are great... i couldn't make the decision of which should be the best answer. So i've put to vote...

I've already married the "old" guy for 1 yr after a 5yrs courtship period... The marriage is not too bad... ;-)

Answer 1

if you need to ask-then it is not a good idea.

Answer 2

It makes a bit of difference how old you are, like are you 18 and he is 25? Or are you 35 and he's 42? Or 60 and 67?

If you are under, say 24 or so, I would say examine the relationship closely and make sure you have a lot in common, and that you get along so well because you are more mature for your age, rather than him being immature for his age. If it is the latter, there could be some real problems in the future if he does not continue to mature.

If you are over 25, that much age gap shouldnt make much differance, it's all about the relationship that you have with each other, shared goals, plans, dreams.

Answer 3

Neither good nor bad. Some people who are around my age look like my Mother. Others look 15 years younger than their true age. Same goes with attitudes and maturity. In other words, it is all very individual. If you are happy with it and you are compatible, then go for it. On the other hand, if little birds are tilting your ear and saying its too big of an age disparity...I think you need to live your own life. By the way this might make a difference depending on your age. The older you are the less difference it makes.

Answer 4

Heck no! marry the older ones. They are generally settled down more and more mature. My husband is 15 yrs older than me, he's 47 and i am 32. He is the absolute love of my life, and he treats me like I am the greatest woman to have ever walked on this earth. He is absolutely wonderful. I think the older one's have the experience too, in just about everything. My first marriage I married a schmuck the same age I was, and that was a total disater, he acted like a spoiled rotten little boy. His mama was always in our business, he's now on his 3rd wife. But my usband now is everything I have ever hoped and dreamed for. He might be older but he sure is the greatest. Don't let age bother you, if it does you better rethink this.. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I have a man in my life who is 7 years older than myself. It seems that the older we get the less those years seem to matter. If you are fourteen and he is 21 I would say NO NO.
If you have enough in common and have shared goals in life and if you have given the relationship enough time and you the female is over 21 then go for it. If you aren't sure, then it means that you aren't sure. As you mature you will know that not being sure means you need to give it time and you will give it time.
It is bad to make a decision when you are not sure.

Answer 6

My wife is 7 years younger then I am and I think it is great. I thing she feels it is good as well. In general guys need a little more time to mature so having them be older can be a good thing.

But of course, the real determining factor, as many people have mentioned in their postings, is whether or not you love him and he loves you. That is the most important thing to consider.

I wish you all the best !

Answer 7

Its not a bad idea...But u must make sure that he is seriously in relationship with you..
Make sure both of u love each other so much and your love basement is very strong...so that u wont find too much difficulties in your future...
Theres no quaranteee that if u marry a older man he would be good or marrying a young man will give u great problems...
Everyting depends on him...and u of couse...
Take nice desicion...

Answer 8

My husband and I are 6 years apart, we have a great marriage. I have always dated men older than me, I find it's a maturity thing. An age difference of 7 years is fine.

Answer 9

There are lots of aspects to marriage, most of which have nothing to do with the age itself, but more with your notions and expectations of the person who happens to be that age. Make sense? If you are in love then you are in love, and age doesn't matter. There are a lot of people who might cite your differences in music and movies (for example), but who cares if you find each other interesting? What it boils down to is who the both of you are to each other. My sister and her husband and also another couple who are close friends of mine are 10yrs apart, but age has never been an issue (except when applying for life insurance! lol) Take care and best wishes!

Answer 10

I married a guy 9 years my senior and I did it because I thought he would be more mature and over the cheating thing but it turns out that he was mature in some ways cheated twice and am like a mother to him being that I foot all bills and have to deal with habbits

Answer 11

I once married a man 13 years older. After the initial honeymoon was over, he started treating me like I was a child and he was my father. My suggestion, if he gives you all you want, and you are satisfied with your future selection, then, move forward. However, be prepared to lose your identity, as older men tend to isolate you from your friends because they become insecure 6-7 months down the road.