Why do women go back to the men who cheat on them. I'm talking about affairs not one night stands. If they take the men back the men will always do it again bcuz they got away with it once. They say for the kids but kids learn from example, is that the example they want to set?
2006-06-25 18:08:20 · 12 answers · asked by lilos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Too bad we cant all learn from your example and be single and extremely lonely... But it's great to be able to tell your cats that you did the right thing, eh?
2006-06-25 20:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by hard_in_temecula 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not as easy as that unfortunately. Att he end of the day the woman loves the man they just dont like his behaviour. Women take these men back for a number of reasons , financial, social status, religion, pressure from the kids or difficulties rasing them alone, family pressure, security and so on. You are right by saying that these men will repeat because they got away with it. There has been no consequence for their actions however many women can draw up an ultimation and put it in writing should the cheating occur again. where they reconcile great work needs to be done in the relationship from both parties as a third person will not get into a secure relationship would all needs be met. However, of course straying is a poor way of dealing with it when communication would be a better option.
2006-06-26 01:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are insecure and don't value themselves as a single. They think they are nothing without the other. It may also be financial. The partner who's been cheated on doesn't think they can make it alone.
No, it does not set a good example for the kids. My mom stayed with a cheater for 40 years. He was always allowed back. I had no respect for my mom until she left my abusive,cheating father 4 years ago, and she's partially paralyzed. If she can do it, anybody can.
2006-06-26 01:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by 4kidsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women go back to abusive and untrusted spouses when they don't know any better. Some go back for the children. Some will go back because of the money and stability. Some just go back because their marriage can be fixed. There are reason for the affair to have happened and the is going to be the decided factor. I would take by husband if he told me that he went on a vacation and ended sleeping with a girl that he met and spent the week together. I would never tell him that I would take him back to his face, (some secrets are healthy) but I would be going to a counselor to find out what caused him to stray, and find out how to fix it. I haven't put in 13 of a marriage to destroy my children lives. But it would only have to happen once!
2006-06-26 01:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people or women (not much differnce if they are both female) go back to cheaters cuz they know nothing else b/c they have been only with cheaters or have been with one too long. they are scared that they will find someone who she falls in love w/ then will have only herself to blame if the relationship goes bad. She A doesn't want to be the bad guy b doesn't want to find something differnt cuz she's scared or c can't take the hint.
2006-06-26 01:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Chucks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started with "people" and went to "women". Men also take back women who cheat on them.
I do think that mothers try until the end to give their children a better life, therefore they may take the man back.
People in general I believe that they take cheaters back because they have low self-stem, or they are emotionally or financially dependent.
2006-06-26 01:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK BECAUSE THEY LOVE THIS PERSON SO MUCH THEY BELIEVE THAT THE PERSON WILL CHANGE AND THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.MORE THAN LIKELY THE CHEATER IS TELLING THEM THAT IT IS THEIR FAULT SO NOW THEY START TO BLAME THEMSELVES AND THINK THAT IF THEY WOULD HAVE ACTED DIFFERENTLY THIS WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED TO THEM. AND IT DOESNT HELP THE SITUATION WHEN THE PERSON WHO HAS CHEATED IS TELLING THEM THAT THEY WILL CHANGE AND THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN. SO IT ONLY MAKES IT EASY FOR THE PERSON TO FEEL THAT IF THEY TAKE THIS PERSON BACK THEY WILL BE WITH THE PERSON THAT THEY LOVE AND THE PERSON HAS TOLD THEM THAT THIS IS NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN AGAIN. AND THIS PERSON WILL LIVE UP TO THE PROMISE UNTIL EVERYTHING IS BACK TO NORMAL AND THE GUARD IS DOWN. AT THE FIRST SIGHT OF TROUBLE IN THE RELATIONSHIP THEY WILL TURN TO SOMEONE ELSE KNOWING THAT THEY DID THIS ALREADY AND WAS CAUGHT SO WHY NOT DO IT AGAIN BECAUSE NOTHING WILL HAPPEN.
2006-06-26 01:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allot of women are raised to belive that the males are the dominate ones, to love,respect, honour and charish. The providers. And its hard when told "Trust me" belive in me " I will never hurt you" because women want that sence of security to feel loved and to be loved. When it all comes crashing down it feels as if the world has left, the one man they trust becomes that of a lier. And comes back to say "forgive" dont women feel they have forgiving hearts, that they can "change that person like we all have been raised with our parents, the nourishing child who becomes adult.
2006-06-27 01:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Weeny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comfort
the fear of going out and finding someone else to trust all over again
the children are not the excuse
children are happy in a loving environment not one in deceit and lies
so it better to be in a single mother household
rather than a married but lying one
2006-06-26 02:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i am not wrong dont women cheat a lot in my opion yes as to your .question once a person does this they are looked down on like a dog whether it be man or woman this type cant never be trusted . after they do this .my opion?
2006-06-26 01:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋